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This week’s dilemma: How do you respond when your childless best friend keeps nagging you to go out when you really don’t want to?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
I have two little ones, both under four years old. My best friend, who doesn’t have kids (and has chosen to remain childless, which I completely respect), is always pushing me to join her for outings. It doesn’t matter if it’s a weekend or a weeknight; she insists that my husband should be entirely capable of managing the kids while I take some time for myself. The truth is, I often don’t feel like going out. I’m exhausted, we have a nice routine established, and while my husband is very helpful, I just don’t want to leave my home. Sure, my kids would be fine without me at bedtime, but my youngest is only one and still nursing at night. She just doesn’t seem to understand my situation. How can I address this? I value our friendship, but it’s becoming overwhelming.
Parents of young children deserve support, no question about it. It’s unfortunate that your friend is adding pressure to your already full plate during these challenging times. You’re absolutely right to recognize that your guilt stems not from a reluctance to go out, but from her constant reminders about it.
The reality is that those without children may not fully comprehend the demands of parenthood. This isn’t a critique of their character; it’s simply a difference in life experiences. While your friend clearly cares about you and your family, there are aspects she will never fully grasp. What’s concerning is her insistence on pushing you beyond your comfort zone regarding your social life.
Communicate with her openly. Let her know how much you cherish your friendship and that you do enjoy your time together. However, you need her to understand that after a long day of parenting, the last thing you want is to get dressed and leave the house. For nursing mothers, even a short outing can be a logistical challenge.
Aim for a compromise. Schedule regular get-togethers where she can come to your place to relax—whether that’s binge-watching a show on the couch or chatting on your front porch with a glass of wine. You can also visit her home; there’s no need for makeup or formal attire there, either. If she wants to spend time with you while managing your responsibilities as a parent, she needs to meet you where you are, both literally and figuratively. Friends are essential, especially during these demanding times.
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In summary, it’s important to set boundaries with your friend while emphasizing the value of your friendship. You can find ways to connect that work for both of you without compromising your parenting responsibilities.