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This week, we address the dilemma of feeling out of sync with other moms who are ready to resume playdates. What do you do when everyone else seems fine with letting their kids socialize, but you’re hesitant? Who’s in the right? If you have questions, reach out to us!
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
As states are gradually reopening, many moms I know seem eager to return to “normal” life, but I, for one, am not ready. Honestly, I could handle a strict lockdown for the duration of the pandemic. It’s tough for me because all the other mothers in my circle—neighbors, friends, even family—are comfortable allowing their kids to play together again. I, however, have lingering concerns, particularly because I’m unsure of where these families have been. Yet, my children—ages 10, 6, and 3—are feeling the impact, and I experience guilt every time I decline a playdate invitation. The pressure from my kids and others is exhausting, but I still can’t shake my discomfort. What should I do?
First, repeat after me: “I am navigating parenting during a global crisis, and I’m doing the best I can.” Say it until it resonates. This situation is anything but “normal,” despite how easily some may try to act.
Yes, most states have lifted restrictions, and places like restaurants and shops are buzzing with activity. But just because the world is opening up, your home doesn’t have to follow suit. Let’s do a quick risk evaluation.
With summer upon us, it’s understandable to feel the urge to ease restrictions after being cooped up for so long. However, it’s crucial to remember that the pandemic hasn’t simply vanished with warmer weather.
Regarding playdates, the CDC advises minimizing contact between kids. They recommend avoiding in-person playdates with friends from different households unless these interactions happen outside, with a minimum distance of six feet, accompanied by frequent hand washing.
Alison Turner, a public health expert, noted that while outdoor play is safer than indoor, it depends on the children’s maturity. The virus is transmitted through droplets, and even normal breathing can pose risks. A combination of mask-wearing, maintaining distance, and limiting interaction time is a prudent strategy.
Some families have cautiously expanded their social circles by connecting with friends or relatives who take pandemic precautions seriously while keeping their bubbles small. Yet, if you’ve done your research and still feel uneasy, it’s perfectly valid to hold back. You are prioritizing your family’s safety.
Avoid comparing yourself to other moms or your family to theirs. This pandemic is a marathon, not a sprint, and adding that stress is unnecessary. Politely communicate your preferences and express your wishes for everyone’s health and safety.
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In summary, trust your instincts when it comes to your children’s well-being. Take the time you need to feel comfortable, and don’t hesitate to communicate your boundaries with others.