Updated: Feb. 20, 2024
Originally Published: May 18, 2022
When my partner and I were young and without children, we maintained separate bank accounts. I appreciated how this highlighted our individuality while we began to combine our lives. However, once we welcomed our first child and began facing expenses like childcare and early learning classes, we decided to consolidate our finances into one joint account. With all our expenses primarily focused on our child—then children, after our second was born—it became impractical to manage multiple accounts. But is sharing a bank account with your partner truly a wise decision, or does it lead to complications? What factors should you consider before merging your financial lives with another person?
According to a 2018 report from Bank of America, 28% of partnered millennials opted to keep their finances separate, compared to only 11% of Gen-Xers and 13% of Baby Boomers. To explore the advantages and disadvantages of both strategies, we consulted several financial experts. Here are their insights before you commit to that joint account.
The Argument for Separate Accounts
Financial expert Lisa Bennett has long championed the idea that each partner should maintain their own bank account. Her reasoning includes ensuring a balance of power and allowing one partner to leave the other without financial strife. While I understand her perspective, it’s worth noting that she has not navigated the financial complexities that arise with children.
A friend of mine, who recently remarried and combined households with a total of six children, told me they maintain separate accounts. Having both experienced divorce, they value tracking their own finances and share responsibility for their respective biological kids. Additionally, they appreciate the freedom to make personal purchases without needing to ask for permission, each having their own income. They settle shared expenses through apps like Venmo, making it appear effortless.
Why a Joint Account Can Work
I might have managed to keep separate accounts through parenthood if expenses were paid in cash or by check. However, with so many bills automatically deducted and payments made online, I simply can’t juggle whose account should cover what.
Financial therapist Mark Roberts notes that a joint account works well for his family. “My wife and I have combined all our accounts except for our business ones,” he explains. “Our paychecks go into one account, and our bills are automatically paid. This transparency makes us both feel equally accountable and prevents any hidden purchases.” His role is to facilitate discussions rather than dictate how couples should manage their finances.
A Balanced Approach: Separate and Joint Accounts
For those seeking a middle ground, financial expert and parenting advocate Emma Clarke suggests a three-account strategy: one for each partner and a joint account for shared expenses. “This allows each person to maintain some financial independence while still sharing responsibilities for joint costs,” Clarke explains.
However, she notes that this approach works best for couples with similar incomes. For couples where one partner earns significantly more, it may create tension, as experienced by teacher and blogger Sarah Johnson, who found it challenging to contribute to a joint account while managing primary childcare responsibilities. They ultimately reverted to one joint account to foster a sense of unity.
Ultimately, “There is no universal solution; it’s about finding what functions best for each couple,” says financial consultant Rachel Adams. “Considering the high costs of raising children, it’s essential to streamline financial management in a way that promotes harmony and efficiency.”
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In summary, whether to have a joint bank account or maintain separate ones ultimately depends on the unique dynamics of each couple. The key is to find a system that works for both partners, ensuring clarity and mutual respect in financial matters.