Last week, my son took his driving test. As we arrived, he meticulously checked the parking spot not once, but twice. For him, everything had to be perfect. Teenagers are all about appearances; their egos are often at an all-time high, no matter how nonchalant they try to act. Whether they’re the overachievers or the ones who seem indifferent, there’s one thought that dominates: What do others think of me?
And nothing threatens their carefully curated image quite like a mom.
I have three of these delicate creatures living under my roof. As they grow older, I’ve realized that my presence can either elevate or deflate their social standing. But honestly, I couldn’t care less about how my antics affect their reputation.
So, when my son drove off with the instructor for his parallel parking test while I stood on the sidelines snapping pictures, he was furious. Not because I was planning to share the photos online; he was totally cool with that. No, he was annoyed simply because I was there. Tough luck, kiddo. After all, I’m the one who brought him into this world, and I’ve earned the right to be present.
I’ve been through the trenches—changing diapers, soothing them as babies, and even navigating public restrooms with one or two of them on my lap. I’ve sacrificed my comfort for theirs, like dumping out my drink on a long car ride for an emergency bathroom situation. So yes, I’m going to document those moments of affection, like when they’re cuddling on the couch or when I want that perfect Mother’s Day photo, no matter how many attempts it takes.
When my son finally got his driving permit, I was ecstatic. I wanted to share that joy with everyone. The first day of school? You bet I’m capturing that moment every year. If we’re at their favorite store and they ask me to stay away, it’s payback time. If we’re grabbing fast food and their friend is working, I’ll make sure to embarrass them in the most entertaining way possible.
My maternal instincts don’t just switch off because they find me annoying. Sure, they might not need reminders to take a snack or use the restroom, but that won’t stop me from expressing my love. They may roll their eyes when I drop them off at their friends’ houses, but I’m not holding back. I’m proud of my kids and want the world to know. Even if they’re hopping out of the car at school, I’ll make sure to let them—and everyone around—know just how much they mean to me.
Motherhood transforms us; we love fiercely, and that may include cheering at their games or staging awkward family moments. It’s not too much for them to handle, despite what they might claim. After all, I’ve worked hard to raise them, and I’m not about to stifle my affection just because they’re embarrassed.
Let’s be real: our kids have had their moments of embarrassing us too. So, a little payback feels fair.
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Overall, I believe we should embrace our roles as parents, even if it means facing a little embarrassment along the way.