Dear Reader,
I’m at a loss. After years of hearing heartfelt arguments about why the R word is damaging, it’s clear that my words have made no difference to you. Whether you use it to describe yourself, a situation, or someone else, it’s hurtful. I doubt yet another message from a suburban mom like me will sway you.
You’re right; we live in a free society where you can express yourself however you choose. Legally, you can use this word, even if it belittles individuals who already face challenges that you might not understand. You’ve been fortunate enough to navigate life without these struggles, so why should you care about the feelings of others?
Parents like me feel the sting when we hear our children being insulted with this term, but perhaps you view us as overly sensitive. Since your child isn’t affected, it may seem like it’s not your concern.
Life is already full of complexities and divisions, so why should you worry about offending someone like me when you use the R word? It’s just a descriptor for a frustrating moment, after all. You’re focused on your own life and don’t need anyone dictating your language.
Yes, the R word has a long history. It was once a clinical term for developmental disabilities, and yes, it appears in the dictionary. But so do words like “dungarees” and “percolator.” Maybe you still use them in casual conversation.
Wouldn’t it be easier if we could just return to the “good old days”? Back when you didn’t have to encounter amazing people like my daughter and her friends? Young adults who proudly manage their own purchases or hold jobs. You may not have the time to engage with someone new, perhaps even missing out on the joy of getting to know them as they help with your groceries.
I understand you might not care about my perspective, and I genuinely feel sorry for you. By dismissing a whole group, you’re missing out on knowing truly remarkable individuals with talents that may surpass your understanding. Not to mention, it reflects poorly on your character.
However, you’re right; this is America. While I wish we could eliminate the R word from our vocabulary—since it’s outdated and hurtful—those who continue to use it won’t change.
Okay, I get it.
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In summary, the continued use of the R word perpetuates harm and misunderstanding, separating us from the beautifully diverse community around us. By choosing our words carefully, we can foster a more inclusive society.