Dear Expecting Mother,
Congratulations on the little one growing inside you! I hope your morning sickness has been manageable and that those delightful kicks are gentle and joyful.
When we chatted recently, with your baby bump and my toddler in tow, you expressed your frustration about the endless stream of advice from seasoned moms. I must admit, your words stung a bit, especially after sharing some of my best tips. But then it hit me—I was once in your shoes, a first-time mom overwhelmed by the unsolicited guidance of others. I longed for a simple “Congratulations” instead of the barrage of advice.
Having experienced both sides of the coin, I want to take this moment to sincerely apologize: on behalf of all seasoned moms to all soon-to-be moms, I’m truly sorry.
I apologize for stopping you in public to share our pearls of wisdom. I know how annoying it can be to receive advice from strangers. During my own pregnancy, I would often wish for the chance to shop or dine without being interrupted by well-meaning moms offering unsolicited tips on everything from feeding to maintaining romance with my partner. But now, I understand that we seasoned moms see your beautiful bump and want to share our insights from the journey we’ve walked. We remember the joy and the challenges of those early days of motherhood and wish to ease your path. Our advice, though often annoying, comes from a place of love and a desire to help you navigate the early weeks, which can feel isolating.
I’m also sorry for sharing our birth stories. I know how nerve-wracking the thought of labor can be, and hearing words like “tearing” and “stitches” doesn’t help. When we recount our experiences, it’s meant to be supportive, but it can easily come off as frightening. In all honesty, I once had a friend tell me labor was manageable thanks to breathing techniques, only for her to later admit it hurt like crazy! We want you to be prepared for the reality of pain, but also for the overwhelming joy that follows when that sweet baby lands in your arms.
I apologize for the repetitive questions we ask, like due date or nursery theme. It may seem odd that we care so much, but those inquiries often remind us of our own pregnancies and the excitement surrounding them. We sincerely appreciate your patience as we indulge in our nostalgia.
I’m sorry, too, for our reactions when you share your parenting plans, like raising your child screen-free or preparing all their food from scratch. Sometimes we might scoff, not out of disdain, but rather because we know priorities shift once you actually meet your baby. You come in with the best intentions, but the reality of parenthood often demands compromise. When you find yourself adjusting those plans, we want to share a laugh, having been there ourselves.
I apologize for probing into personal matters. Questions about dilation or feeding plans may feel invasive now, but it’s our way of welcoming you into the sisterhood of motherhood. You might feel uncomfortable now, but soon enough, you’ll find yourself discussing everything from diaper contents to postpartum recovery with your friends. Embracing this new openness is part of the journey.
I know it’s annoying when we tell you to “sleep now,” but please heed our advice. Those last weeks of pregnancy may feel like they should be filled with preparations, but savoring this time is invaluable. Life is about to change in ways you can’t fully fathom, so take a moment to relish it.
So, to all the soon-to-be moms out there, I apologize for the well-meaning advice, the stories, and the unsolicited glances. I promise to do my best to hold back when I see you next, but know that my intentions are rooted in care. You have so much joy and love ahead of you as you embrace motherhood. The next time our paths cross, I’ll take a deep breath and simply say, “Congratulations.”
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In summary, the journey to motherhood is filled with both excitement and challenges. While seasoned moms often share advice and stories, it comes from a place of love and shared experiences. The transition into motherhood can be overwhelming, but it’s also filled with profound joy.