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by Charlotte Mills
Updated: Sep. 14, 2020
Originally Published: May 13, 2016
I have a little secret: my beauty routine mainly consists of tiny samples that might be past their expiration date. Most of my makeup is gifted from my cousin, who splurges at high-end department stores. She purchases a ton of products—enough to snag the “free gift”—and then she generously hands over the extras to me.
I can’t afford luxury makeup. Just the other day, I scraped the last remnants of a lipstick tube with a Q-tip because I have to wait until payday for a new one. I’ve even bought bread using spare change. We’ve been known to negotiate payment plans with our utility company. I’ve used holiday funds to buy gifts for others.
So believe me when I say I understand the struggle of living on a tight budget.
Reconnecting with my partner is essential, especially with our three little ones constantly interrupting our moments together. Yet, finances often stand in our way—money for outings and for someone to watch the kids while we enjoy some much-needed time alone.
What’s the answer? Skipping date night isn’t an option, so we’ve had to get creative. Sure, it can be challenging, but it’s far better than sulking around the house wishing we could afford a night out.
1. Explore Your Faith
Think church isn’t romantic? Think again. Dropping the kids off in the nursery and making a beeline for the pews can feel exhilarating, especially when you haven’t spent quality time together all week. Plus, the quiet atmosphere ensures minimal distractions.
2. Leverage Family Connections
If you’re not religious but your relatives are, it’s time to recruit them. Convince grandparents or aunts to take the kids to church early Sunday morning. It’s a nice break for them—and it gives you a chance to enjoy some cocktails.
3. Home Movie Night
Netflix and homemade cocktails can rival any fancy restaurant. With the kids tucked into bed early, you can enjoy all the perks of a night out without leaving home. Plus, you can dress as you please—whether that’s in comfy sweats or something more alluring.
4. Intimacy
This one’s free, fun, and good for your health. Just remember to lock the door to avoid any unexpected interruptions that might lead to future therapy bills for the kids.
5. Babysitting Exchange
Trade babysitting duties with friends who are in the same boat. Alternatively, invite them over for pizza, allowing the kids to play together while you all share a laugh about your current financial situations. Other parents will understand your choice to grab a quick bite at McDonald’s instead of dining at a five-star restaurant.
6. Errand Adventures
Date night doesn’t have to happen in the evening. My partner often has unexpected days off when the kids are at school. Running errands together, even mundane ones, can revive the spark that made you fall in love in the first place. It reminds us that while our circumstances have changed, our bond remains strong.
It doesn’t need to be extravagant—our relationship thrived on simplicity before, and it can again. If you want more ideas on how to navigate parenthood and relationships, check out this helpful resource about pregnancy and home insemination.
In conclusion, date nights on a budget are not only possible but can also be creative and fun. Reconnecting with your partner is essential, and even simple activities can keep the romance alive.