If you’re anticipating the arrival of twins, get ready for a whirlwind of experiences. Suddenly, it seems like twins are everywhere around you, even if you’ve never noticed them before. Many parents I encounter have older twins who can dress themselves, help with chores, and even enjoy fetching the mail. They often share that the journey becomes increasingly enjoyable with each passing year.
It’s rare to find someone who will tell you that parenting twins only gets tougher as they age—only about 1% of the parents I’ve talked to have that outlook. If you come across one of those individuals, just smile and walk away, or perhaps let out a dramatic, “I can’t handle this!” and hope for someone nearby to step in.
One insightful mom I spoke with captured the essence of coping beautifully: “People without twins often overthink how you manage it. The truth is, you just do it! Maintain a sense of humor and take it day by day—sometimes hour by hour.” You might hear people say that you’re only given what you can handle, to which you might think, “I believe there’s been a mix-up; I’m not that capable!” Then, just when you think you’re at your limit, one of your babies surprises you by sleeping longer than expected. In those moments, you’ll find yourself on your knees in gratitude, probably dozing off right there!
A good sense of humor is essential. If you lack one, acquire it quickly! Life is rarely as catastrophic as it feels at first glance. A smile or a laugh can lighten even the heaviest situations, while tears or frustration can linger much longer. Sure, there will be times when you laugh and then sigh, saying, “But we really need to sort this out,” or you might erupt with, “This needs immediate attention!” However, leaning towards laughter as often as you can will make a world of difference. As Kurt Vonnegut wisely noted, “Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh since the cleanup is far easier.”
David, a father of twin boys named Lucas and Ethan, recalls a particularly chaotic night. “We were amidst changing the fourth diaper of the hour and washing sheets at 3 a.m. when my wife quipped, ‘It can’t possibly get worse!’ We barely settled back into bed before our 2-year-old daughter walked in, declaring she felt sick. Within moments, she had vomited all over our freshly laundered clothes. All we could do was laugh; the alternative was too grim!”
Now’s the time to reset your expectations. It’s been said that raising triplets requires about 196 hours a week—imagine the demands of twins! Based on that, you might estimate needing around 130 to 196 hours to care for twins each week. That’s an immense time commitment, indicating some lifestyle adjustments are necessary.
If you thrive on maintaining a spotless home, consider creating a strategy to let go of that need for perfection (unless you have a full-time housekeeper). I remember one evening when David returned from work to find me disheveled and overwhelmed, searching for pajamas. When he mentioned a sale on speakers, I snapped, “Money doesn’t grow on trees, nor do housekeepers! Look at this mess! Help me out!” His response was swift; whether it was my state of being or my outburst that spurred him into action, I’ll never know.
Accept that gourmet meals will be a luxury unless you hire a personal chef. There are many nights when a bowl of cereal feels like a feast. And holiday cards? They might not make it out until March—embrace the option of sending your greetings via social media instead! As David often says, “There simply aren’t enough hours in the day!” You may find yourself with lengthy to-do lists, and that’s perfectly fine as long as you prioritize a few tasks each week instead of overwhelming yourself daily.
Parents of twins often discover a newfound flexibility they never thought possible. They might find themselves prioritizing a family movie night over tackling the dishes or having to pivot plans when a diaper incident occurs right before a festive outing. This shift in perspective can become one of the most significant blessings of parenthood: recognizing what truly matters.
If you weren’t organized before, prepare to become adept at it. If you were already organized, you’ll likely find yourself stepping it up, as the famous chef Emeril Lagasse would say.
After being unexpectedly admitted to the hospital due to preterm labor at 32 weeks, I returned home for just 24 hours before delivering my sons, Jack and Henry, at 35 weeks. They spent 16 days in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) before coming home, which allowed us to prepare as best as we could in that limited time. Ultimately, the best way to organize is through experience—life will bring plenty of high-priority challenges that demand your attention, and you’ll adapt just like every other parent of multiples.
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Summary
In preparing for twins, parents should embrace humor, adjust expectations, and remain flexible. While the journey may come with challenges—like messy homes and late holiday cards—embracing the chaos can lead to newfound joys and deeper connections. Ultimately, the experience of raising twins is a remarkable adventure that teaches resilience and adaptability.