Last week, while waiting for complimentary frozen yogurt, I overheard a fellow parent complimenting my curls as my child played exuberantly with a newfound friend. I responded cheerfully with an “Oh, thank you!” But before I could think it through, I blurted out, “I’m thinking about cutting it short.” The immediate look of horror on her face caught me off guard as she exclaimed, “No! But why would you do that?”
This unexpected reaction made me ponder my motivations. Was I seeking affirmation for my desire to join the #cutlife? Or was I merely trying to engage in small talk? Regardless, why did she feel compelled to advise me against it? It’s intriguing how people often believe their opinions on someone else’s appearance hold weight.
Typically, when friends discuss changes to their hair, I’m the one who gets excited and asks, “What’s the plan?” I don’t usually discourage haircuts—well, except for bangs. Those often lead to regrets after a week of forehead perspiration. But I digress.
I’ve long championed the philosophy of “Short Hair, Don’t Care.” After my little one arrived, I found myself gradually growing my hair out again. However, it’s fascinating how invested some people become in the hairstyles of others. The array of opinions about my hair choices has been both surprising and thought-provoking.
For many women, particularly women of color, hair is deeply intertwined with identity. It is celebrated as a symbol of beauty and worth, yet it also brings with it a myriad of struggles and anxieties. The hair care industry is a billion-dollar enterprise, and women of color have historically battled against societal standards of beauty, often seeking acceptance by conforming to external expectations. This ongoing struggle is real, y’all.
Fortunately, inspiration is abundant. The universe seems to be sending me signals that it’s time for a change. I’ve noticed a surge in images of women sporting chic, fresh cuts across my social media feeds, which I interpret as a sign.
Though I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t apprehensive about making such a bold change. It has been quite some time—two years since my last major experiment with color—that I’ve contemplated something this drastic. I feel a mix of excitement and anxiety about how others will react. Yet, as Coco Chanel wisely said, “A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.” I am ready to embrace that transformation, shedding my old self and stepping into a new chapter.
In this journey of self-discovery, the first step begins with me.
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Summary
This article explores the author’s contemplation of cutting her hair short, reflecting on societal expectations and personal identity. It highlights the deep connection many women, especially women of color, have with their hair and the often unsolicited opinions they receive about it. Ultimately, the author embraces change and self-empowerment, viewing the decision to cut her hair as a significant step towards transformation.