Your children are doing well. Your partner is managing just fine. And you? You’re doing great! Everything is perfect, right? You’re holding it together—at least that’s what you keep telling yourself.
It’s all too easy to settle into this routine of being “fine.” You’ve become adept at concealing the anxiety, the intense mood fluctuations, the heavy cloud of depression that sometimes feels impossible to escape. You navigate the ups and downs like a pro, convincing yourself that this is simply the price of motherhood. Yes, of course, parenting is challenging! Kids are demanding and exhausting; they drain your energy, and honestly, why would you expect anything different? Who decided this journey was supposed to be joyful anyway? Joy feels like a foreign concept.
So, you continue to put on the brave face. Years pass by in a haze of “I’m fine,” while you silently wade through waves of depression and anxiety. The kids are fine, your partner is fine. And you? Well, you’re fine too… or at least that’s what you tell yourself.
Except, deep down, you know that isn’t true. You may convince yourself that the heaviness is just a phase or that a simple pampering session, like a pedicure or a long nap, will make it all better. But it’s more than that.
You might have even skipped a social outing recently, claiming your child was sick. If only they knew the truth—that you were struggling with racing thoughts and overwhelming emotions that kept you from enjoying a night out. You can’t tell them that. It’s much easier to hide behind a lie, isn’t it?
You remember calling in sick to your job, citing strep throat. Again, not the truth. You can’t let your coworkers see the cracks in your facade. What would they think if they knew you were drowning in sadness? You need your job, and you can’t risk anyone questioning your ability to perform. You’ve thought about therapy, about reaching out for help, but the hurdles seem insurmountable—time, money, shame. It’s easier to say you’re fine.
Then there was that moment at the doctor’s office, where the physician looked at you and asked about your mental health. You hesitated, heart racing, wanting to disclose everything, yet you responded with your practiced smile, denying any struggles. “I’m fine! I exercise regularly and take care of myself.” You nailed it, right? But as you drove home, tears streamed down your face. You knew you needed help but didn’t take the leap.
If any of this resonates with you, understand that you are not alone. You are not failing. The most difficult step in seeking mental health support is often the first one, and you might be struggling to take it. Perhaps you feel guilty for wanting help when your children need you; perhaps you believe your feelings are just part of being a mother.
It’s time to break the silence and stop enduring in isolation. Today is the day to take action, not tomorrow or next month. If you lack the strength to make the first move, share this article with someone close to you. Ask them to help you set up that first appointment or accompany you to talk with a healthcare provider. You deserve to reclaim your joy.
Your mental health is paramount. Don’t let the weight of the world keep you from finding happiness.
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In summary, your mental health is crucial. Don’t ignore the signs. Seek help, and remember that you are worthy of joy and support.