As a mother in a dual-military family, I want to take a moment to connect with both working moms and stay-at-home moms. My life as an active-duty service member has been shaped by the demands of the military, and there are a few things I’d like to share from my unique perspective.
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Building Connections Outside the Military Is Challenging.
I find myself eager to connect with moms outside my military community, yet I often feel lost in how to initiate those friendships. My schedule is dictated by duty calls and deployments, which can make it hard to join in on playdates or casual outings. “Hey, want to grab coffee? Just not on any Saturday or Sunday for the next month because I’ll be away on duty.” It’s not an easy conversation starter! -
Navigating Questions About My Role Is Complicated.
When you ask how I manage everything, it can be tough to respond. Unlike the choice between returning to work or staying home, my path was set when I took my oath. While the military provides maternity leave—which is a blessing—different branches have varying policies on when we return to active duty. Some of us are back to work within months, often missing cherished milestones. It can feel overwhelming, but we take pride in serving and protecting our families and yours. -
Childcare Can Be a Real Struggle.
Finding reliable childcare is a significant concern. My husband and I are both active-duty, and there are times when we must find someone trustworthy to care for our child overnight. We are fortunate to be on shore duty, but many friends often have to rely on relatives or friends for extended periods. It’s a juggling act that can be stressful. -
I’m Just Like Any Other Mom.
At the end of the day, I’m simply a mom. It’s 6:14 p.m. (or 18:14 if I’m feeling formal), and after putting my child to bed, I’m indulging in chocolate and catching up on my favorite shows. The uniform may set me apart, but my love for my child is just as deep as yours.
So, to all working and stay-at-home moms, please remember that I’m here, too. I may not attend every playdate, and I might show up in my uniform, but my commitment to motherhood is unwavering. I cherish the connections we can build because, at the core, we are all just moms navigating this journey together.
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Summary:
In this letter, a military mom shares her unique experiences and challenges, emphasizing the desire for connection with fellow moms. She highlights the complexities of her role, the difficulties of finding childcare, and the commonalities that unite all mothers. The message is one of solidarity and understanding, inviting working and stay-at-home moms alike to recognize their shared experiences.