Dear Children,
As the holiday season approaches, I want to take a moment to share some thoughts with you. This time of year can be quite perplexing for us as Jewish individuals. Everywhere we turn, there are bright decorations in red and green, twinkling lights, and songs celebrating Christmas. Whether it’s the joyful tunes echoing on streaming services or the festive displays lighting up our neighborhoods, it’s hard to miss the unmistakable spirit of Christmas.
I must confess, my heart sank when you asked about putting up a Christmas tree. It’s not the desire for a tree that troubled me; rather, it made me realize how to explain our traditions to you, especially when we don’t celebrate with trees, Santa, or Christmas gifts. You won’t find an Elf on your shelf, nor will there be cookies left out for Santa, who won’t be coming down our chimney. The reality is that Christmas will be all around us, and while it’s a beautiful celebration for many, it won’t be part of our family traditions.
Every year, someone seems to inquire whether we will “do” Christmas, given its prominence in our culture. After all, Santa leads the parade in New York City each Thanksgiving! Some have suggested we get a Hanukkah bush so you can enjoy decorating a tree, while others have encouraged us to adorn our home with blue and white lights to mark “the arrival of winter.” These suggestions, though well-meaning, can make it seem like we are denying you a cherished experience.
I want you to know that even though we don’t celebrate Christmas, it’s important to embrace the warmth and joy of this season in our own way. We have our own traditions to cherish, like lighting the menorah, playing with dreidels, and enjoying delicious potato latkes. We will gather with family and friends, share good food, and create our own joyful memories. We are fortunate to enjoy the peace and safety that allows us to celebrate in our own special way. Remember, there are many who are not as lucky.
And yes, you will receive gifts just like your friends who celebrate Christmas!
As we navigate this holiday season, I hope you understand that what truly matters is not the celebration itself, but the values we uphold. Whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, or any other holiday, it’s about loving others, showing kindness, helping those in need, and cherishing family. This time of year serves as a reminder to reflect on what matters most—spreading love, hope, and joy.
My dear ones, I know that Christmas can be confusing as you grow up practicing Judaism. But remember, it’s not the symbols that define this season; it’s the way we hold onto our values and traditions. You have so much in common with your friends who celebrate Christmas, and you will discover that shared spirit of joy.
Lastly, let’s not forget that Christmas is a day our people often enjoy too—a time for movie outings and indulging in Chinese food with other Jewish families across the nation.
Happy Hanukkah, my precious ones. You are dearly loved.
With all my heart,
Mommy