Hey there,
I wanted to take a moment to address something significant. I understand that divorce can happen for various reasons—people change, feelings evolve, and sometimes couples can no longer remain together. However, in your case, this separation is a direct result of your actions. You’ve inflicted pain on my friend, betrayed her trust, and caused a rift that can’t be easily mended.
She’s facing this challenge with the strength and resilience that I’ve always admired. You both are navigating this transition with a commendable level of respect, prioritizing the well-being of your children during this difficult time. I genuinely respect that you’re working together to create a peaceful environment for them, sharing meals and laughter despite the circumstances. Many couples could learn from your approach to co-parenting in the midst of hardship.
That said, just because she is handling this with grace doesn’t mean I’m not furious. I’m absolutely livid. You see, while she’s trying to be the bigger person, I am here to voice my anger over the heartbreak and stress you’ve caused her. So, let me be clear: I’m really upset with you.
You’ve made her question her self-worth. You’ve left her feeling confused and guilty, as if she were responsible for the downfall of your relationship. You’ve caused her sleepless nights filled with tears, as she worries about how this will impact her precious children. It’s a heavy weight to bear, especially when she’s trying to help those kids understand and cope with their feelings about the situation.
She has to share parenting duties with you, attending events like basketball games and recitals while also helping your kids process their emotions. This is no small task, and it’s especially difficult when she’s grappling with her own heartache.
While she continues to take the high road, it’s hard for me to stay calm about this. I wish I could express my frustration directly—like saying, “I hope your new place is filled with roaches! Just kidding, but seriously, I’m not happy with you.”
Her job is to rise above this situation, while my role is to support her. I’ll be her sounding board, the one who validates her feelings and lifts her spirits when the going gets tough. I’ll remind her that beyond this challenging time lies a new chapter filled with happiness and freedom. She is going to emerge stronger and more resilient than ever.
In the end, she will forgive you, but I’ll be here, shaking my head at the mess you created. And if you ever find yourself with a shipment of unwanted pests, don’t come looking for me—I won’t know a thing about it.
Supportively yours,
The BFF