In the realm of romantic gestures, it took me nearly eight years of marriage before I truly did something special for my wife on Valentine’s Day. I share this not from a place of superiority but as a relatable admission. If you find yourself in a similar situation, know that I have walked that path as well.
When Sarah and I tied the knot, I was still pursuing my college degree. After graduation, she returned to school, and our lives were filled with the joys of parenthood—three kids to be precise. We relocated several times, often without family nearby, making it challenging to secure childcare. Looking back, I realize that my reluctance to celebrate the day wasn’t just about financial constraints or the logistics of babysitting. The truth is, I was simply lazy, and that mindset is detrimental to a lasting relationship.
What Does “Doing Something Nice” Mean?
Let’s clarify what “doing something nice” on Valentine’s Day means. It’s not about sending a quick text or ordering a heart-shaped pizza. It certainly doesn’t involve a cheeky coupon for a massage that ends up being more about me than her. True gestures of love are unique, thoughtful, and memorable.
Consider reserving a table at a restaurant that requires a dress code, or if that’s beyond your budget, plan a surprise evening that evokes nostalgia—perhaps revisiting the place you had your first date or where you shared your first kiss. Such sentiments matter. Alternatively, you could order flowers reminiscent of her wedding bouquet or compile a photo album of cherished moments. These days, it’s easy and affordable to do so online.
The Significance of Valentine’s Day
You might be questioning the significance of all this. After all, isn’t Valentine’s Day just a commercial gimmick? Perhaps, but taking the time to arrange a special outing is a meaningful expression of love.
I don’t go through these motions to merely tick off a checklist. My reasons are more personal. A few years ago, I decided to treat Sarah to a lavish dinner at a vineyard in Oregon. Perched atop a hill, the restaurant boasted breathtaking views of endless grapevines. Dressed elegantly, we enjoyed a meal by a warm fireplace, and as the sun set, I was reminded of how beautiful she looked. In that moment, I felt a renewed sense of love for her that I hadn’t experienced in years.
This experience taught me that investing in moments like these is not just about spending money; it’s an investment in the relationship itself. Given how easily marriages can falter, especially amid the chaos of parenting, creating opportunities to see your partner in a new light is invaluable.
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Conclusion
In summary, taking the time to plan something special for your partner on Valentine’s Day can strengthen your bond and reignite the spark in your relationship.