A few weeks ago, I experienced an unsettling incident that has lingered in my mind. To set the scene, this encounter took place on a side street in a quaint village in upstate New York, during the day and right in the midst of a snowstorm substantial enough to close all schools in the county. If you’re familiar with upstate New York, you know that when schools shut down due to weather, it’s no minor snowfall.
I had a scheduled dentist appointment, and recognizing the importance of dental care, I ventured out into the storm. After parking, I waited for two cars to pass before I crossed the street. The first car drove by, and the second came to a complete halt. Although I didn’t see any hand gestures instructing me to cross, the car was stationary, so I proceeded.
Once safely on the other side, I noticed the passenger window rolling down. A middle-aged white man leaned out, clasped his hands together, squinted his eyes, and mocked me with an exaggerated Asian accent, saying, “You should say thank you.” Initially, I raised my hand as a simple acknowledgment for his allowing me to cross, but as he rolled up the window, the reality of the situation hit me. It’s important to mention that I am Asian.
You might have a range of reactions to this incident, from indifference to disbelief that such behavior still exists. Regardless of your stance, here are several key points to reflect on.
Discrimination and Racism Are Daily Realities
Just because the overt signs of segregation from the past are no longer visible does not mean that racism and discrimination have vanished. People are targeted based on gender, race, religion, or sexual orientation every day. Sometimes, it manifests as comments or gestures; other times it’s silent or aggressive. It can also be systemic, operating through barriers to education, healthcare, and legal rights. Discrimination can be both conscious and unconscious, and, unfortunately, it is very much alive in 2020.
Racism Occurs in Every Community
You might be thinking, “That could never happen here!” or “I haven’t seen any signs of discrimination in my town.” The truth is, it does happen, often without making headlines. Even if it’s not visible, it affects people you know.
Many of Us Harbor Some Form of Unconscious Bias
Throughout my career, I have participated in professional development about implicit bias. I hadn’t given much thought to it before these sessions, but it’s essential to recognize that we all have biases that influence our judgments and behaviors, often without our awareness. Acknowledging these biases doesn’t mean you support discrimination; it’s about recognizing how stereotypes can shape our actions.
We Should Also Examine Our Own Privilege
This concept can be uncomfortable, but it’s vital. Acknowledging privilege doesn’t diminish your struggles; it simply highlights the advantages that may come with your race, gender, or socioeconomic status. I grew up in a white, working-class family, which allowed me access to quality education and healthcare without the fear of discrimination based on my appearance. Understanding privilege can help you approach the experiences of others with empathy and insight.
Believing in Equality Doesn’t Mean You Are Free from Biases
For example, I recently attended a compelling presentation on how local zoning laws perpetuated segregation in my community. It was eye-opening to see how these issues manifest close to home. You might genuinely love everyone, but sometimes, you could unknowingly support systems that disadvantage others.
I have personally faced racist remarks and actions throughout my life, experiencing the frustration of being judged for my gender or the race of my partner. These experiences are real and ongoing, and it’s crucial to recognize their existence. Reflect on your own biases, educate yourself on these issues, and strive to be kind.
To the man in the vehicle, who thought mocking me during a snowstorm was amusing: karma has a way of catching up.
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Summary
A recent encounter with a racist remark during a snowstorm has prompted reflection on the ongoing issues of discrimination and unconscious bias. Acknowledging personal privilege and understanding the realities of racism can help foster empathy and inclusivity in our communities.