You’ve heard the news—a dear friend has welcomed her long-awaited baby, and you’re eager to rush over and cuddle that adorable little one. The urge to visit is strong, fueled by excitement and a desire to support the new mom. However, I remember quite vividly my own early days of motherhood, when unexpected visitors could be overwhelming. Instead of joy, I often felt exhaustion, compounded by the stress of entertaining while managing a newborn. So, before you grab your keys and rush over, consider these important guidelines for visiting a new mom:
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Bring Food They’ll Enjoy
Opt for a meal from a reputable restaurant or a local takeout that you know they will appreciate. Make sure to order enough to provide leftovers for both parents. Cooking can be hit or miss, so it’s wiser to purchase something delicious rather than risk it with your own culinary skills. -
Refrain from Eating Their Food
If the new mom offers you a taste of her home-cooked meal, politely decline. She’s likely just being courteous, and anything you don’t eat is one less meal for her to worry about later. If you’re thirsty, help yourself to water but be mindful of her limited resources. -
Bring a Thoughtful Gift
Even if you’ve already showered her with gifts, it’s considerate to bring something small and useful. Consider checking her registry or simply asking what she needs—diapers always make for a practical and welcome gift. -
Capture the Moments
If you fancy yourself a decent photographer, bring your camera along. Take some candid shots but don’t turn it into a sales pitch later; simply share the photos for free. -
Dress Seasonally Appropriate
When buying clothing for the baby, ensure it’s suitable for the current season. Babies grow quickly, so plan accordingly. -
Avoid Decorative Items
Trust me, no new mom wants unsolicited decor for the nursery. Keep your oversized stuffed animals and decorative frames to yourself. She has enough on her plate without worrying about extra clutter. -
Offer Your Help
If your friend is typically a control freak about her space, remind her that soon enough, she won’t have the luxury of being in charge. Don’t wait for her to ask; just jump in and help where you can. -
Tackle the Dishes
If you see a sink full of dishes, take the initiative. Wash them and load them into the dishwasher—don’t ask for permission; just do it. Your friend will appreciate it more than you know. -
Fold the Laundry
Noticing a pile of clean clothes? Put your hands to work and help fold them, even if it includes items like underwear. Every little bit counts. -
Be the Supportive Friend
One of my friends not only brought food but also checked in from the store to see if I needed anything. This kind of proactive support is invaluable. Another friend came over with her husband; he rocked the baby while she cleaned my kitchen. That allowed me precious time to indulge in self-care. -
Avoid Being a Burden
There are visitors who make you feel like you’re being held hostage in your own home. Don’t be that person who shows up empty-handed and expects to be entertained. Instead, be thoughtful, as I learned to be after reflecting on my earlier visits.
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In summary, being a supportive friend to a new mom involves thoughtful gestures, practical help, and respecting her space and needs. By following these guidelines, you can contribute positively to her experience and ensure she feels supported during this new chapter in her life.