Contrary to popular belief, I was overjoyed when my doctor revealed that a third little girl would be joining our family. Growing up with two sisters, I eagerly anticipated the thrill and chaos of raising three daughters, all part of the wild ride that comes with being in an emotionally charged, melodramatic, all-female household.
Plus, we were already stocked with all the necessary girl gear, which appealed to my obsession with household efficiency. We had a boy’s name ready—Timmy—but I envisioned our little Timmy adorably coming home in a pink gingham dress from Lilly Pulitzer.
But let’s put Timmy aside. Here are some insights I’ve gained about raising daughters:
- Prepare for the Gross Factor – Daughters can be just as messy as sons. While my nephews are known for their charming displays of bodily functions—think farts and bathroom humor—it’s another story when my little girl, adorned with ribbons in her hair, lets out a thunderous fart at the dinner table. My eldest has even mastered farting on command, leading to some hilarious moments. Trust me, the spectacle of my 3-year-old strutting out of the bathroom, announcing her “monster turd,” is not something I wish to witness firsthand.
- The Daily Outfit Dilemma – Dressing three little girls is like solving an intricate puzzle that changes by the minute. My input on their daily outfits has become non-existent; my role is merely to ensure they’re clothed and not smelling of urine. “Remember, you chose this adorable dress,” I remind them, but their complaints about itchiness turn my efforts into a comedic struggle. They frequently change outfits multiple times a day, and we are perpetually late.
- Beware of Glitter – Glitter is the enemy. It should be treated like a hazardous material; once it enters your home, it will spread to every corner. A seemingly innocent headband can transform you into a sparkly monster. Dismiss anything with glitter immediately, or prepare for a never-ending cleanup.
- The Hair Struggle is Real – Hair is a battlefield. The chaos of post-bath detangling often requires a strong dose of patience (and perhaps Valium). I once attempted a simple French braid, only to end up with a flailing child and a case of arthritis. The intricate hairstyles I see on YouTube remain a distant dream for me.
- Body Image is No Small Matter – The future of your daughter’s self-esteem rests heavily on your influence. When my daughter asked if her dress choice would make her beautiful to her peers, I knew I had to tread carefully. I reminded her that true beauty comes from actions, like hard work and kindness—not just appearances.
- Emotional Warfare – Boys release their emotions through physicality, while girls get crafty with their feelings. I remember a heated argument with my sister that escalated in wonderfully wild ways. Girls channel their anger into more intricate forms of revenge, like tampering with food.
- Dressing to Impress – My daughters have a flair for the dramatic. One evening, they descended in a sparkling ensemble, complete with my high heels and enough lip gloss to warrant a parental intervention. I was both horrified and amused, and it dawned on me that I might need to tone down my own influence.
- The Joys of Girlhood – At the end of the day, engaging in girly activities is a blast. Nail painting, dance recitals, and building fairy houses are delightful. While boys can enjoy these activities too, the unique magic of girlhood is something special to cherish while it lasts—before they hit that age when it’s all about eye rolls and “whatever, Mom.”
As I brace for the inevitable transition when my daughters may prefer not to be seen with me, I hold on to these memories of their joyful antics. After all, I’m a girl too, with my own share of stories to tell—especially about those charming moments of childhood chaos.
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In summary, raising daughters involves navigating a world filled with giggles, chaos, and unexpected messes. With humor and a bit of wisdom, it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences a mother can have.