Navigating the world of parenting can be a challenge, and as parents, we sometimes find ourselves on the receiving end of unhelpful or even hurtful comments from those without kids. Here are thirteen remarks that non-parents should think twice about before saying to parents.
- “I could never have kids. That sounds awful!”
It’s great to know your feelings, but such comments can come off as dismissive about the joys and struggles of parenting. Perhaps you’d like to come over and share in the chaos instead? - “How have you not seen that movie yet? It’s been out for weeks!”
Believe it or not, we can go weeks without a movie night when we’re busy keeping our little ones entertained. Spoiler alert: we might not catch up on that film or series for a long time, if ever. - “You never call anymore.”
Keeping little ones safe and entertained is a full-time job. By the time we get the kids to bed, we’re usually too exhausted to pick up the phone. We think about calling, though! That must count for something, right? - “We’re having an adults-only get-together.”
We understand that not every gathering is suitable for kids, but family-friendly events like barbecues and parties should include everyone. Babysitters nowadays are pricey, and sometimes we just want to join the fun! - “We’re considering having kids, so we’re getting a puppy first.”
Puppies and babies are not the same! While both require care, the experiences are vastly different. If you really want to know what parenting is like, come hang out with us for a day. - “You’re not going to start wearing ‘dad shorts’ or ‘mom jeans,’ are you?”
Just because we’re parents doesn’t mean we’ve lost our identities. We still have our own sense of style, even if it includes some playful baby apparel. - “It must be so nice to stay home with the kids all day.”
It can be enjoyable, but it’s also incredibly demanding. Picture twelve hours of repeated children’s programming—it’s not as relaxing as it sounds! - “You’re kid-free tonight! Go have fun!”
Sure, we might be free tonight, but the thought of dealing with the aftermath of a wild night out can be daunting when we think of the kids waiting for us back home. - “That child is out of control!”
Every kid has their moments! When you don’t have kids, it’s easy to overlook the fact that kids are just being kids. Remember, every parent feels the same about their own children at times. - “Can you please try to be on time?”
It’s not just about getting one child ready; it’s about packing everything they need. Getting everyone out the door can be a complex operation! - “I didn’t invite you because you never respond.”
Please keep inviting us! There will be a day when we can say yes, and we genuinely want to join in on the fun—whatever it may be. - “You look tired. Are you okay?”
If you think cleaning up messes all night is tiring, you’d be amazed at how resilient we are. We’re fine, really! - “When I have kids, I’ll never do ____.”
Silence death glare crickets Please refrain from making assumptions; parenting is unpredictable and often humbling.
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In summary, while everyone is entitled to their opinions, some comments can alienate or upset parents. It’s essential to be mindful of the challenges and joys that come with raising children, and to foster understanding and respect across different life experiences.