The adage that life transforms when you become a parent is undeniably true. Though I had heard it many times, nothing could have prepared me for the total upheaval that followed my journey into parenthood. Every facet of my life—from my wardrobe to my routines, and even how I enjoy my meals—has been reshaped. My existence can distinctly be divided into two eras: before kids (BK) and after kids (AK).
- Bathroom Time: BK, using the bathroom was a private affair. AK, it’s a chaotic experience with little ones clamoring for attention, leaving me a pro at managing the situation with a child clinging to my legs.
- Social Drinking: BK, three drinks was the sweet spot—enough to feel merry without going overboard. AK, I savor the rare outing with just one drink because anything more leads to sleepless nights and morning-after regrets.
- Brunch Timing: BK, brunch was a leisurely affair starting at 11 AM. AK, lunch kicks off at that early hour to accommodate the kiddos.
- Sleep Patterns: BK, I could bank on weekend sleep-ins. AK, weekends blend into weekdays with early mornings, and the concept of a break has vanished since school is out.
- Dining Choices: BK, I picked restaurants based on cuisine. AK, the selection hinges on children’s menus, accommodating seating, and early hours.
- Eating Habits: BK, meals were relished when I felt hungry, with each bite thoughtfully chosen. AK, eating becomes a hurried endeavor, often snatching bites from my kids’ plates.
- Romantic Gestures: BK, romance was synonymous with wine, fine dining, and intimate moments. AK, the kindest gesture I can offer my partner is tackling the dishes.
- Birthday Celebrations: BK, birthday parties were all about adult fun. AK, they now revolve around my child’s friends, turning into my primary social events.
- Body Image: BK, modesty was the norm. AK, I’ve become all too familiar with the sight of my friends’ bodies—especially during nursing, where modesty takes a back seat.
- Night Out: BK, I wouldn’t leave the house until after 9 PM. AK, I’m tucked in bed by that time.
- Hair Care: BK, I dyed my hair for style. AK, I color it to hide the grays that come with parenting.
- Stylist Requests: BK, I’d ask my stylist for trendy styles. AK, I opt for length so I can easily pull it back.
- Wardrobe Sizes: BK, clothing came in three sizes: slim, average, and plus. AK, now it’s normal, maternity transition, and actual maternity wear, with elastic waistbands feeling like a gift from above.
- Location Choices: BK, I chose neighborhoods based on nightlife. AK, my focus is on school districts.
- Home Decor: BK, my space was filled with souvenirs and art. AK, it’s dominated by kids’ artwork and plastic toys, with the most cherished items being those created by my budding artist.
- Bulk Buying: BK, I never saw the need for bulk purchases. AK, essentials like paper towels are now in constant supply in my online cart.
- Neighbors’ Parties: BK, I’d join the fun at neighbors’ gatherings. AK, I’m more inclined to call for quiet when they throw a late-night bash.
- Sick Days: BK, illness meant a day of rest. AK, I juggle sickness while caring for my children, often pushing through without the luxury of a break—even while dealing with strep throat.
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In summary, becoming a parent reshapes every aspect of your life, from daily routines to social interactions and self-care. The transition from BK to AK leads to new norms and priorities that redefine existence.