After hosting multiple baby showers—one with family, another with friends, and even a work celebration—an expectant mother has likely been busy preparing for her little one. She has meticulously arranged and rearranged the nursery, attended birthing classes, and ensured the car seat is expertly installed by professionals. Her hospital bag is packed with essentials like essential oils, calming candles, a Celine Dion soundtrack, a cherished wedding photo, and a baby name book in case she feels inspired to change her mind upon seeing her newborn. Now, it’s the perfect moment to introduce her to some of the lesser-discussed realities of postpartum life.
1. Discuss the Physical Discomforts Post-Delivery
Childbirth is notorious for its pain, as depicted in countless movies filled with drama and distress. However, what often goes unmentioned is the intense soreness that follows. The area that just endured the monumental task of delivering a baby will feel like a battleground. Sitting, standing, or even attempting intimacy may bring tears, laughter, or both.
2. Point Out the Changes in Your Body
Instead of complimenting her, why not highlight how your body has transformed? Remind her of the days when your abs were toned and your figure was more defined. Now, finding clothes that flatter the new shape can feel like an impossible task, especially when the empire waist becomes a wardrobe staple.
3. Share Stories of Ongoing Sleep Deprivation
As the new car scent fades, the reality of sleepless nights sets in. Let her know that even after years, some kids still struggle with sleep. Teething, night terrors, and growth spurts can turn bedtime into a battlefield. Smile kindly and assure her that her child will likely sleep like a dream—eventually.
4. Reveal Relationship Struggles
If she’s married, remind her that any minor issues in her relationship will likely become monumental once the baby arrives. Sleep deprivation and the challenges of adjusting to parenthood can create communication gaps that were previously manageable.
5. Instill Concerns About Development
Share alarming anecdotes like how your niece was forming complex sentences by seven months. This will undoubtedly trigger her worries about her unborn child’s development and whether they’ll be smart, popular, or simply “normal.” After all, with no baby in her arms yet, she has plenty to fret about.
6. Surprise Her with Hospital Bills
Convey the shocking reality that hospital bills can arrive long after the birth. Even when you think you’re done with payments, bills can resurface years later. If the first bill arrives while you are preparing for high school graduation, imagine the financial responsibilities that will still be lingering by the time they turn 40!
7. End with a Note of Encouragement
While it may seem counterintuitive after sharing all that anxiety-inducing advice, remind her of the incredible mother she is destined to be. Encouragement is essential, especially after all the overwhelming information you’ve just shared.
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In summary, while preparing for motherhood can be an exciting time, it can also bring on a host of anxieties and unexpected realities. Sharing these experiences can help expecting mothers feel more prepared for the journey ahead.