With large families becoming more common, we often face a barrage of intrusive questions when we venture out together. Honestly, it’s getting old. If I hear one more ridiculous comment, I might just lose it — perhaps by launching a fruit at someone’s head in the grocery aisle. To help prevent that, here are some inquiries you should think twice about before asking a large family:
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“Is this a circus?”
We aren’t a spectacle for your amusement. If I were, I’d be charging admission. Staring, pointing, and counting my children like they’re animals in a zoo? Wow, you can count to seven. Kudos to you! Yes, we have five kids at home; what a keen observation. -
“Are you trying to outdo the Duggars?”
How original! I’ve never heard that one before. Truth is, I’m not attempting world domination through cloning, so I figured I’d just raise my own crew of little helpers. -
“Don’t you think you should say no sometimes?”
Excuse me? Have you seen my partner? Why would I ever want to deny him anything? And let’s not jump to conclusions about my motives. Maybe I just prefer to take the initiative! -
“Do you know what causes this?”
Yes, and we happen to be quite skilled at it. -
“Were all your kids planned?”
Did you plan to be this rude? I honestly can’t comprehend how my family planning relates to anyone but my spouse and me. If I say no, you’ll assume I can’t afford birth control; if I say yes, you’ll think I’m crazy. -
“Are you very religious?”
Apparently, the only reason for a large family is religious fervor. This question often implies that I must be a submissive woman who views motherhood as my sole purpose. Here’s a thought: some people simply enjoy parenting, regardless of their beliefs. -
“Why did you decide to keep them all?”
They aren’t stray puppies! My spouse once cheekily replied, “Well, we did eat a few…” -
“How can you afford all of them?”
They take turns eating, and we save money by using dog crates instead of beds. It’s all about resourcefulness! -
“I could never handle so many kids!”
Good. Please don’t! -
“You’re done having kids, right?”
Are you offering to fund their college education? If not, it’s really none of your business.
The question that truly grinds my gears, however, is, “You poor woman!” Excuse me? Yes, my life is chaotic and loud, but I adore my family. I wouldn’t change a thing. Large families may not be for everyone, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t fulfilling for others.
If you’re interested in parenting and family planning resources, check out CDC’s pregnancy page for excellent information. For those looking to expand their families, don’t forget to check out our other post on fertility boosters for men at Make A Mom. For further insights into family planning, Intracervical Insemination has valuable resources you might find helpful.
In summary, while large families face unique challenges and questions, it’s important to remember that each family dynamic is personal and shouldn’t be judged. Embrace your life, chaos and all!