I used to be in your shoes—overworked, underappreciated, and feeling the strain. For a decade, before I embarked on my journey as a parent, I dedicated my life to teaching elementary school. In those pre-parenting days, I had a strong belief in the necessity of homework. Kids needed it, I thought. I can’t quite explain why I felt that way, but I did.
Now, as a parent navigating the homework landscape, my perspective has shifted dramatically. I still hold my beliefs, but they’ve evolved. Homework is burdensome. Kids shouldn’t have to deal with so much of it, if any at all.
This isn’t a result of laziness; anyone who knows me can attest to my work ethic. My concern about homework stems from the value of time. My time is precious, and so is my child’s. Just because a child is five, nine, or thirteen doesn’t mean their time is less important than anyone else’s.
I understand the relentless demands placed on educators. When some bureaucrat in Washington D.C. or Hartford imposes unnecessary standards, it can be maddening. Imagine if, after passing your certification exams, you were still required to spend up to three hours each night proving that you had mastered the material? It’s absurd.
Speaking of absurdity, I’ve dealt with my share of mental health challenges. I know firsthand that an excessive workload can lead to burnout. I don’t want my child to find out the hard way that life requires balance. All work and no play can be detrimental. Sleep, exercise, music, sports, family, friends, and possibly therapy are all essential for a healthy, happy adult life.
Sure, there are times when studying for tests or completing projects requires extra effort. Some concepts need memorization, and certain skills must be practiced. If a child struggles with reading or math, that’s a serious issue that needs addressing. Real life has its consequences, and I understand that. If my child aspires to join the varsity basketball team but can’t make a free throw, practice is necessary.
But if my child has already mastered her math facts, why does she need to complete multiplication worksheets at home? Her time is just as valuable as anyone else’s, regardless of age.
So here’s my proposal: You teach my kids the fundamentals of reading, writing, math, and the basics of history and science, while I’ll ensure my child learns how to navigate the social world and balance life’s responsibilities. Important skills like pursuing passions, maintaining healthy relationships, listening to their bodies, resting, and taking accountability are equally vital.
If my child is genuinely struggling in a subject, please let me know. I’m willing to help. However, ease up on the homework. Before assigning it, reflect on its necessity. If too much time is required for me to assist, I won’t be able to focus on other important areas. I’d rather send a healthy, well-rounded child to school than one who can recite Edgar Allan Poe’s irony but lacks balance.
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In summary, homework can be overwhelming for kids and parents alike. Finding a balance between educational responsibilities and personal well-being is crucial for a child’s development.