Experiencing facial distortion is a familiar reaction when I share that I have just one child over the age of four. While most friends and family are supportive, it’s often the random stranger at the grocery store whose expression contorts in confusion as they ask, “When are you planning to have another?” They seem to hold their breath, eager for the reassuring response that another child will soon join our family. However, when I reveal that we’re not planning to expand our odd-numbered family, I can see the twitch in their eyebrow as they process my answer. Here are ten real responses I’ve encountered:
- “Aren’t you worried she’ll be lonely?” (Yes, because I keep her isolated from society.)
- “I once knew an only child; they were spoiled and unbearable.” (Oh, absolutely! Siblings are always perfect saints.)
- “You’ll likely change your mind when she gets older and prefers her own space.” (Right, because my child’s main role is to alleviate my loneliness.)
- “Are you unable to have more children?” (If I smack you on the back, will that expression stick?)
- “Have you considered adoption?” (Sure, I hear Walmart has a selection of kids; I’ll just pop in for one!)
- “I have five kids, and it’s been incredibly rewarding. My youngest just got out of prison. My second daughter’s fourth husband lives with me along with his kids….” (Um, I’ll take the next line, thank you.)
- “When you pass, your daughter will have a huge burden sorting through your things.” (How’s that sibling rivalry over your dad’s will going?)
- “Your daughter probably only relates to adults, right?” (Yep, that’s why it takes forever to drag her away from her friends at school. Kids are so overrated.)
- “Does she get everything she wants? Must be tough shopping at Target.” (Oh, I didn’t realize having one child means I can’t say “no.”)
- And my favorite response: “What if something happens to her?” (Hmm, a backup plan? I hadn’t considered that. I should stock up; they practically come free when you buy in bulk!)
Our decision to have just one child was deliberate. We understand our limits and prioritize a quality life for our family in the long run. A family of three does not mean we are missing something; it doesn’t make my husband any less of a father, me any less of a mother, or our daughter any less of a daughter.
Our family of three is just right for us, and that’s all that truly matters. If you’re exploring family planning options, consider checking out this resource on home insemination to help guide your journey.
For those looking into more information on pregnancy and family planning, Healthline offers an excellent resource on in-vitro fertilization, which can be very helpful. Additionally, if you’re interested in employer benefits related to family planning, you can find relevant information here.
Summary: The decision to have one child often comes with unsolicited opinions and questions from others. While many are supportive, the reactions from strangers can be bewildering. Despite societal pressure and misconceptions, choosing to have just one child is a valid and thoughtful decision that can lead to a fulfilling family life.