Hey there, moms! How’s everything going? Can I offer you a drink?
I’m not a mother — at least not yet, anyway. Who knows what the future holds? I’d love to provide a clear answer, but I shattered my crystal ball last week when I discovered I’d never be a unicorn whisperer. There’s a lot of chatter about the divide between “moms” and “non-moms,” often filled with heated debates. I’m not here to start a confrontation; I prefer to keep it light. I can’t speak for every “non-mom,” just for myself. So, here are a few things about me that I think you should know.
1. I Don’t Dislike Your Kids.
Honestly, I don’t. Sure, I wasn’t thrilled with the toddler in the store who was throwing toys while her mom chuckled about her “spirited” personality. But overall, I’m not a child-hating monster! Kids can be amusing, saying the funniest and most inappropriate things. I genuinely enjoy that.
2. I Enjoy Spending Time With Kids.
While I don’t want to spend every waking moment with them, I find kids to be delightful little beings. Is there anything funnier than a toddler proudly showcasing their superhero underwear in a crowded area? That’s comedy gold! I’m all for letting your little ones indulge in treats, run wild, and explore every toy in sight. At my place, the rules are simple: there are no rules! I’m happy to hand a sugar-fueled child back to you. After all, Aunt Clara (that’s what my niece calls me) is the fun one. And yes, I’m ready for the payback when my time comes.
3. My Dog Is Not Your Child.
I adore my dog and love to spoil him, but please don’t confuse my affection for him with how I view your child. I’m fully aware that my dog is just a dog, while your child is a human being you are nurturing to become a well-adjusted individual. It’s apples and oranges, folks!
4. I Want to Be Your Friend.
I’ve heard some moms lament that their childless friends vanished after they became parents. If that happened to you, I’m sorry, but perhaps those were not the best friends to begin with. Most of my mom friends are women I connected with after they had kids. Here’s a secret: I don’t consider whether someone has kids before befriending them. If you’re fantastic, let’s be friends! And if I accidentally suggest lunch during Junior’s nap time, please let me know what works for you. I’m adaptable and genuinely like you!
5. I’m Intimidated by Babies.
It’s true, babies make me nervous. Until they can sit up independently, please don’t hand your infant over to me. I’m not a heartless person who dislikes babies; I just find them incredibly tiny and fragile. Supporting their little heads without too much pressure? It’s overwhelming! I’d prefer to admire your precious bundle from a distance.
I could go on, but I prefer to stick with five points. So, how about that drink? You seem like you could use a coffee, and I’m more than happy to get it for you.
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Summary:
This article discusses five key insights a non-mom wishes to share with mothers, emphasizing that she doesn’t dislike kids, enjoys their company, and wants to be friends while acknowledging her apprehension around babies. It encourages openness and communication between moms and non-moms alike.