Have you ever thought there’s nothing more challenging than flying with a little one? Try flying with both a toddler and an infant. Imagine enduring a long-haul flight across oceans while grappling with a fear of flying. That, my friends, is truly an adventure.
If you’re skeptical, let me introduce you to my first piece of advice for international travel with small children: embrace denial. If the thought of flying fills you with dread and air travel is your only option, you might as well accept it.
Even for those who don’t mind flying, boarding a plane with young kids is a masterclass in denial. Forget about catching up on that movie you’ve been wanting to see. Say goodbye to savoring a drink—either it will spill, or you’ll chug it down before you can enjoy it. And don’t even think about napping like you used to; relaxation is a distant memory now.
Domestic trips can be perplexing enough with security checks, baggage claim, and finding your gate, not to mention the hassle of unpacking any prohibited items (just kidding! But wouldn’t it be great to have a pepper spray to ward off annoying seatmates?). International travel, however, can feel like a maze. There are different customs, languages, and the constant worry of whether you’ll remember the correct date format when speaking to customs agents.
But don’t let these challenges deter you from exploring the world. Don’t miss out on remarkable experiences just because you have kids. Get them out there! The earlier they get used to air travel, the more enjoyable it becomes for everyone involved. Plus, remember that children under 2 can fly for free on your lap—a great deal!
Before you book your flights, though, choose a destination that’s at least somewhat kid-friendly. If you’ve dreamed of visiting the Great Pyramids, maybe save that for a later trip when your kids are older and more adaptable. For a first international journey, consider destinations like London, where you can retrace Paddington Bear’s adventures, or a family-friendly spot in Spain. Scandinavian countries are also excellent choices, as English is widely spoken.
One airport that stands out for families is Amsterdam’s Schiphol, which features a play area for kids, a quiet room with cribs, and all kinds of amenities for parents (and no, not the pot cafes—though the city is quite accommodating for families).
Managing a flight with children is largely about controlling the chaos. Remember the days before you became a parent? When you saw a fellow traveler with a toddler, you probably wanted to sprint in the opposite direction. Well, now you’re that parent, and you’ll do anything to keep those around you happy.
You might find yourself seeking out the nearest kind-looking passenger—perhaps an elderly lady or a friendly college student. Compliment them and talk up how well-behaved your children are (even if it’s a stretch!). These friendly strangers can be lifesavers when you need to make a quick dash to the restroom.
And believe me, you will need to make that dash. On one of my many journeys back home from Europe, my son had just been potty trained while my younger one was still in diapers. Out of a 16-hour flight, I spent roughly 3 and a half minutes seated, including takeoff and landing.
Here’s another thing: the usual parenting rules don’t apply on flights. No fruit juice for kids? Just make sure they stay hydrated by whatever means necessary. Candy is a no-no? Well, it might just save your sanity—though it’s best to save those sugary treats until later in the flight to avoid a sugar-fueled meltdown. And as for screen time? Let them zone out in front of a movie if it means a peaceful flight.
Most importantly, go into the trip with a positive mindset and a well-stocked bag of toys, snacks, and distractions. Focus on how much fun the destination will be, and if flying makes you anxious, just remember that entertaining your kids will help the time fly by.
So, grab a guidebook, reserve those tickets, and make friends with the first grandmotherly figure you see at the gate. Happy travels!