Parenting
The Mother’s Pledge by Kira Thompson
Updated: Aug. 21, 2015
Originally Published: Jan. 16, 2012
I commit to crafting days brimming with laughter, connection, play, fresh adventures, learning opportunities, nourishing meals, and timely rest for everyone involved. I will schedule playdates with other parents and children, as these interactions are essential for maintaining our sanity. If a day emerges filled with tears, sibling squabbles, monotony, indulgent snacks, and disrupted naps, I will accept it and strive for improvement the next day.
I will not drown my frustrations in an entire bag of candy or chips, as that will only lead to additional regret. Instead, I will turn to my friends for support via text and urge my children outside to play. Should the rain prevent our outdoor plans, I won’t feel victimized by fate; I will create a new plan, even if it simply involves a trip to Target.
I will be mindful of my spending, especially in the tempting aisles of Target and other stores. I will resist the allure of overpriced organic treats at Whole Foods. I will utilize the Internet, magazines, and recommendations from friends to find free or affordable activities. Groupon will be my ally in ensuring I never pay full price for anything fun.
I vow to avoid the negativity of “no,” opting instead for positive expressions. I will practice empathy rather than chastisement, communicate calmly instead of yelling, supervise without patronizing, and breathe deeply instead of fuming. Thank you, Marcus Bell.
I will allocate time for exercise to stave off irritability and the unwelcome belly that demands a new wardrobe. I will also prioritize personal time regularly, and if it feels overdue, I will make a plan, secure childcare, and step out of my home in either workout or evening attire.
In the event of a meltdown, I will maintain my composure and firmness. I won’t get swept up in the emotional storm my child may be experiencing. I will offer them space or comfort, depending on their needs, and ensure their safety by placing a blanket or towel nearby to cushion any thrashing.
Every Sunday, I will prepare a list of meals for the week ahead, so I’m not frazzled each evening at dinner time. I will maximize my sleep. When it’s nap time for the kids, I will take that opportunity for rest, resisting the urge to clean or catch up on emails. I will set an alarm if necessary to ensure I’m awake in time to prepare dinner after a power nap.
I will understand that potty training is a journey, and while it may take time, my children will not be voting in their first presidential election while still in diapers. I will embrace the moderate use of TV as a tool, knowing that educational programs like PBS can be beneficial.
I will invest energy into nurturing my relationship with my partner, ensuring we enjoy each other as spouses, not just as co-parents. I will stay informed about the latest parenting research and insights, striving to embody more of the nurturing spirit of June Cleaver rather than being overwhelmed like Roseanne. However, I will not berate myself for what I forget or fail to accomplish.
Despite the inevitable challenges and the moments of frustration, I will remind myself that I am a good mother. My children are fortunate to have me, just as I am blessed to have them.
This article was originally published on Jan. 16, 2012.
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Summary
This pledge outlines the commitment of a mother to create joyful, fulfilling days for her family while accepting the challenges of parenting. It emphasizes the importance of self-care, maintaining relationships, and fostering a positive environment. The mother promises to be mindful of her spending, prioritize quality time, and approach parenting with empathy and understanding. Ultimately, she recognizes her worth and the value she brings to her children.