In recent discussions, the subject of sharing our less-than-adoring sentiments about our children has sparked considerable debate. How can we voice these feelings? What if, years later, our children come across a tweet or a blog post and feel hurt? Will their world shatter? It’s worth noting that online content is virtually permanent; once it’s out there, it’s challenging to erase. Is the fleeting satisfaction of voicing our frustrations worth the potential fallout? Are we prioritizing our needs over their well-being?
No. We are striving to survive.
Motherhood is no easy feat. While the joyful, beautiful moments often outshine the stressful and exasperating ones, they don’t tell the whole story. If there’s a mother who has glided through this journey without a single complaint, I’d love to know what her secret is because that’s simply unrealistic. Some mothers turn to alcohol for relief, others to retail therapy, strict dieting, or even affairs—while some of us turn to writing. Which of these paths is truly more harmful to a family?
Our children need us in the here and now. They require our love, our attention, and our guidance at this very moment. If sharing a post or a tweet allows me, or any other mother, to release our frustrations and be present for our families, then it is undeniably worthwhile.
My love for my children is beyond question. Every choice I make is influenced by its effect on them. They are my everything, and I express my affection for them daily. But am I flawless? No. More importantly, do they need to believe that I am? If discovering that I found them a bit annoying at times becomes their greatest hardship in 15 years, I would consider them lucky and expect accolades for being Mother of the Millennium.
My writings, the guest contributions I publish, the anonymous confessions, and my book aren’t for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. There are countless beautiful platforms that celebrate the ideal of motherhood, and I encourage you to explore them—everyone has the right to engage with content that resonates with them. However, it is not anyone’s place to dictate what I or others should or shouldn’t express. When a mother of a child with special needs shares her experience of loving her kids yet sometimes feeling frustrated, it’s not your role to tell her she’s wrong. That kind of attitude is unacceptable both on playgrounds and online.
I teach my kids that it’s okay not to like everyone, but they must treat others with kindness. I remind them that when something doesn’t affect them directly, they should simply look the other way. Mind your own business and respect others—basic lessons many of us learned from our parents that some seem to have forgotten.
Indeed, social media brings a new dimension to parenting that our generation is uniquely navigating. We must reflect on the words we share and be comfortable with our choices, understanding that our kids may one day read them. Personally, I am confident that we will have instilled enough love and nurturing in them to handle a few light-hearted posts.
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In summary, motherhood in the digital age challenges us to voice our struggles while maintaining a balance of love and presence for our children.