While our three-year-old daughter has countless lessons ahead of her, I’ve noticed she embodies some admirable traits that many adults have either forgotten or never truly embraced. And by “many adults,” I’m referring to my husband.
I cherish my husband, and his positive qualities far outweigh the negatives. However, I’ve observed behaviors in our little one that I wish he would adopt more often (and honestly, I could use a refresher on them too). Here are a few thoughts on that…
- Compliments Can Work Wonders. The other day, in a moment of frustration, I snapped at my daughter, asking, “Why can’t you sit still?” To my surprise, she replied, “Because, Mommy, I love your hair.” Just like that, I forgot my irritation! A simple compliment can turn a bad mood around, and my husband could definitely take note of this. A few heartfelt words could make me feel cherished, like a schoolgirl whose crush has noticed her.
- Apologize First, Ask Questions Later. When I’m genuinely upset, it helps to hear “I’m sorry” even if the reasoning behind my feelings isn’t clear. My daughter instinctively says sorry when I’m having a tough moment, while my husband tends to dig for reasons before offering an apology. Spoiler alert: This rarely leads to a happier wife.
- Don’t Hesitate to Ask for Help. My husband is often too proud to ask for assistance and will wrestle with issues that I could help resolve in no time. Our daughter, on the other hand, openly requests help and appreciates any assistance she gets—no shame involved.
- Cuddling Has Its Own Value. My daughter requests hugs and snuggles without any hidden agenda. Why does my husband think every affectionate moment is an invitation for more? While I appreciate his desire for intimacy, sometimes a simple hug would suffice.
- Own Up to Your Actions. Though my daughter is still learning about potty training, she candidly announces her bathroom needs. I wish my husband would similarly take responsibility for his actions instead of attributing them to an imaginary “Not Me.” And by the way, the air freshener in the bathroom is not just for show!
- Seek Out Connection. My daughter often wants me nearby, whether she’s playing or working. While I respect my husband’s need for downtime in his man cave, I would love it if he sought my company more often, even amidst the chaos.
- Embrace Spontaneity. My daughter can effortlessly switch from calm to playful, reminding us all to let loose. I’d love for my husband to join in on our spontaneous dance parties! Life is about enjoying the moment, and I want him to relish the fruits of his hard work.
- Show Empathy. When I’m not feeling well, my daughter comforts me with hugs and sweet songs. Conversely, my husband often thinks I should toughen up unless there’s a visible injury. A little sympathy goes a long way!
- Keep Drama in Check. My brave little girl tumbles and falls but rarely complains. In contrast, my husband can make a mountain out of a molehill when it comes to minor injuries. It’s entertaining, but sometimes I wish he’d channel some of that toughness our daughter has.
- Express Gratitude. My daughter frequently says thank you, even when it’s not necessary. Meanwhile, getting my husband to acknowledge a home-cooked meal often feels like fishing with dynamite—it’s tough!
- Share Joy. My daughter laughs easily and finds joy in simple things. I adore my husband’s infectious laugh, but I wish he let it out more often. Perhaps a little more humor would lighten our days.
- Be a Family Cheerleader. My daughter enthusiastically cheers for her dad when he plays games, shouting praises like “Good job, Daddy!” Meanwhile, when I share my achievements with my husband, I often feel like I’m met with indifference. A little encouragement can go a long way!
- Wake Up with a Smile. Each morning, my daughter springs out of bed, excited for the day ahead, whereas my husband tends to be a grump until he gets his coffee. Although he makes my morning brew, I’d love for him to wake up with a little more enthusiasm.
In summary, while our children have much to learn, they also have much to teach us. By embracing some of these simple, heartfelt behaviors, my husband could enhance our family dynamic and bring more joy into our daily lives.
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