Updated: July 17, 2014
Originally Published: July 8, 2011
As a mother of three who uses a wheelchair, I often find myself the center of attention. Little ones frequently approach me with questions like, “Why can’t you walk?” “Are your legs broken?” or “What’s with the chair?” Initially, the parents’ reactions are often a mix of embarrassment and concern over their child’s curiosity, but they soon relax when they see me smile.
I typically start with a straightforward response to ease the situation, explaining that my legs simply don’t work anymore. However, kids are naturally inquisitive, and many of them follow up with, “Why?” I usually give a thoughtful expression, as if pondering the universe’s greatest mysteries—because to them, it truly is a significant question.
I explain that we all have nerves in our backs that function like the cord of a lamp, and unfortunately, my cord is cut. This means my nerves can no longer send the signals needed for my legs to move. More often than not, the child will look at me with a puzzled expression and respond with an “oh, okay.” It’s a conversation that unfolds almost identically each time, but it fills me with pride to witness children learning to ask questions and understand different experiences. Everyone has their own unique journey, yet we all share a common desire to connect with one another.
To parents, I encourage you to allow your children to be curious—let them ask questions. Don’t worry about what others may think. Most people are more than willing to share their stories, whether it’s about their vibrant blue hair or a visible scar. If we don’t engage in these conversations, how will we learn to show we care?
You might wonder how I manage to keep up with my three active boys while in a wheelchair. It’s a question I hear often, and the truth is, it’s not something I can easily articulate. I simply make it work. Take a look for yourself!
This article was originally published on July 8, 2011.
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In summary, living as a mother in a wheelchair presents unique challenges and opportunities for connection. Embracing curiosity from children not only fosters understanding but also enriches our shared experiences.