Dear Younger Me,
You might not recognize me now, with a few fine lines framing my eyes and a body that has transformed after bringing five wonderful children into this world. But let me assure you, there’s no shame in these changes; the laughter etched around my eyes tells a story of joy, and the marks on my belly symbolize the incredible journey of motherhood I cherish.
As you enter high school, it’s crucial to stop stressing over others’ opinions. Be true to yourself, rather than conforming to the expectations of your classmates. Celebrating your uniqueness will become your greatest asset in the future.
While your school days may feel like an endless popularity contest, you’ll find true happiness in a small group of friends who appreciate you for who you are. These are the people who will support you when life throws unexpected challenges your way.
Forgiveness will be a difficult lesson for you, but it’s essential to let go of the bitterness that weighs you down. Those who mock you often do so because they’re struggling themselves. Their harshness is a reflection of their own pain, not a measure of your worth.
Stop wasting energy criticizing your reflection. Society has fed you a distorted view of beauty—don’t let it dictate how you feel about yourself. The negativity from those around you is not a reflection of your true value. Remember that inner beauty far surpasses physical appearance, and the mirror is not your enemy. Learn to appreciate yourself for who you are, as others see the love within you even when you can’t.
You will face unimaginable losses in the years ahead—don’t shy away from confronting them. Your journey through grief will make you stronger and more resilient. These experiences will equip you to support others in their times of need.
I know it feels like your parents are scrutinizing every move you make, and you might resent living under such close observation. However, the strict rules and boundaries they enforce are rooted in love. They genuinely want what’s best for you, and you’ll come to understand this once you have children of your own.
Treasure the time spent with family. Those summer adventures will eventually fade into memory. Say yes to that trip to Scotland with your father before the opportunity passes, and cherish the moments in the garden with your sister. Don’t take her presence for granted; her absence will leave a void that time will not heal.
You will experience love in various forms while you’re young, but choose wisely. Your happiness must not hinge on someone else. One romance will leave you heartbroken, and others will come and go, each teaching you invaluable lessons about love that will prepare you for your future partner. Avoid the charming but untrustworthy one at the bar—his deceit will cause you more pain than you can imagine. Yet, you are a survivor. One day, you will meet your true soulmate, who will help you rediscover your joy.
Life is filled with unexpected turns; don’t hesitate to veer off the beaten path. Embrace challenges and do not allow the fear of failure to trap you in a life of regrets. Mistakes are part of learning. Trust your instincts, follow your heart, and fight for what you believe in. Stop chasing happiness in places where it doesn’t exist. You will realize that it has been within you all along.
Take your time growing up. Savor the journey ahead, as each experience—no matter how tough—contributes to the incredible person you will become. Live fully and embrace each day; you won’t have this chance again.
With love,
Your Much Older Self