Why is there a growing trend to categorize mothers? Every mom I encounter seems to embrace some parenting identity—Natural Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Attachment Parenting, Homeschooling Mom, Conservative Mama. When did this phenomenon begin? Why is it happening? More importantly, why don’t I fit into any of these boxes?
It feels like shopping for jeans; I try on dozens, yet none seem to fit perfectly. Some highlight my curves but are too tight elsewhere, while others are just the wrong length. It’s frustrating. The same applies to these parenting labels. Am I the odd one out? Are these other mothers simply adhering to a script laid out in a book to feel included?
AM I MISSING SOMETHING?
Where do I belong?
I exclusively breastfeed, so maybe I should identify as a natural parent.
I co-sleep with my children, which might label me an attachment parent.
My kids don’t share the same father, so could I be deemed a “trashy mama”?
I’m not married to their father, which could make me an “alternative mama.”
But hold on! I also discipline my older kids with spanking, own firearms, gave my 6-year-old a BB gun for Christmas (a Red Ryder, no less!), lose my temper occasionally, and sometimes even sit in the shower and cry. I also enjoy surprising my kids with a water hose when they’re playing outside and take them to church occasionally. I love their smell after a long day of play.
What happened to just being a mom? This clique-like mentality is frustrating. I never fit in during high school, and I don’t want to now. I’m doing things my way, and my kids are thriving, so I refuse to believe I’m doing it wrong. I think I’m doing it just right.
You probably are too.
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In summary, it’s time to move beyond the labels and embrace the unique blend of parenting styles that fit our lives. Each journey is different, and that’s perfectly okay.