Modern parenting has transformed into a competitive arena, leaving many to feel like they’re constantly falling short. Every day seems to bring new studies suggesting that everything you’ve been doing since that pregnancy test turned positive is wrong. It’s time to take a breath and recognize that you’re doing great! Just the fact that you’re reading this means you care about your parenting journey. So let’s dive in to remind you that you’re a wonderful mom even if…
You didn’t have a “natural birth.”
Whether you welcomed your baby into the world with a serene water birth or opted for an epidural like it was candy at a festival, the method of delivery has no impact on your parenting skills. Your bond with your child isn’t determined by how they entered the world. Personally, I had two C-sections and my twins spent a month in the NICU, yet they’re now thriving seven-year-olds with whom I share a strong connection.
You stopped breastfeeding (or never started).
Perhaps breastfeeding was a painful experience for you, or maybe you didn’t even try. Or you may have breastfed for a few months until returning to work made pumping feel impossible. No need to feel guilty! Contrary to popular belief, breastfeeding isn’t a prerequisite for excellent parenting. Recent research has even shown that the advantages of breastfeeding are often exaggerated. Trust me, you’re still a great mom!
You didn’t experience instant love at first sight.
When you first held your baby, you might have felt overwhelmed instead of flooded with love. That’s perfectly normal! Some mothers only feel that deep connection after their child starts to walk or talk. It’s not a fairy tale; it’s real life. If you do find yourself feeling persistently detached or down, please consult your doctor. That’s a different situation altogether, but it doesn’t make you a bad mom!
Your kids have tasted fast food (recently).
So, you opted for a quick drive-thru meal because life got hectic. While fast food might not be the healthiest option, your kids won’t face dire consequences for enjoying a burger and fries now and then. The mere fact that you worry about their nutrition proves you’re a caring parent! If you’re feeling adventurous, why not treat yourself to a Shamrock shake next time?
Family dinners aren’t a regular occurrence.
I’ve read the studies claiming that lack of family dinners leads to all sorts of negative outcomes for kids. Really? A nightly chicken tender meal at 5:30 PM will prevent them from bad choices later in life? If family dinners happen organically in your home, great! If not, it’s more important to engage with your kids daily, even if it’s just chatting about silly things like farts.
You allow your child to quit activities.
How many commitments does your child have? If they want to stop playing soccer, why not let them? Forcing kids to stick with activities they’re not interested in doesn’t guarantee they’ll become the next sports star. It just creates unnecessary stress for everyone involved!
Your child isn’t labeled as “gifted.”
The trend of labeling children as gifted can be overwhelming. Remember, a child’s intelligence isn’t a reflection of your parenting. Despite all the reading and stimulation you provided, not every child is destined to be a prodigy. In fact, only about 2% to 5% of kids are truly gifted, so give that average kid a hug!
Feeling better? You’re doing just fine, mom! Unless, of course, you’re that mom who gives her 5-year-old soda from a baby bottle. Then we might have a problem.
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Summary
In the world of parenting, it’s easy to feel inadequate. However, it’s essential to recognize that your worth as a mother isn’t defined by your birth method, feeding choices, or family routines. Embrace the unique journey you’re on, and remember that showing concern for your child’s well-being is what truly makes you a great mom.