Successfully navigating move-in day requires both preparation and adaptability. By this point, you should have gathered all the essentials (be sure to check out Target’s handy printable shopping list and Bed Bath & Beyond’s college-specific online lists). Also, have that all-important conversation about roommates, friendships, campus safety, health, drinking, and yes, the realities of S-E-X.
Having moved two kids 5,000 miles away for college, we’ve learned valuable lessons—both the easy and hard way—about what works and what doesn’t. Those hectic days are now cherished memories, complete with plenty of smiling snapshots to look back on. Yours will be too.
Do’s:
- Encourage Communication: Have your child reach out to their roommate via email or social media. This is often when decisions about shared items like refrigerators or TVs are made. As a parent, it might be tempting to scrutinize their roommate’s online presence, but try to refrain from making snap judgments.
- Arrive Early: If possible, get to campus at least a day before move-in. This allows time for any last-minute shopping, picking up held purchases, and exploring the new environment—if your child is okay with you tagging along.
- Rest Up: Get a good night’s sleep before the big day and enjoy a filling breakfast. Arriving fatigued can lead to a cranky demeanor, which is not an ideal first impression for the new roommate.
- Prepare Your Logistics: Have printed directions, schedules, and maps readily available. Familiarize yourself with these beforehand to ensure a smooth process.
- Stay Hydrated: Bring along healthy snacks and plenty of water—save the wine for later. Trust me, you’ll need it after the day is done.
- Clean First: Pack items like paper towels and cleaning wipes. A quick clean of the room before unpacking can set a positive tone for the year; this may be the only deep clean it sees.
- Share Contact Info: Exchange phone numbers with the roommate and their parents for emergencies—this is not for spying on your child’s activities.
- Bring Family Photos: Pack a couple of small framed pictures for their desk or nightstand. Even if they insist they don’t want them, seeing their roommate’s photos may make them wish they had some from home.
- First Aid Essentials: Include a small first aid kit with items like Advil and a thermometer. Illness will happen, and you’ll want to be informed, especially from a distance.
- Noise Management: Pack earplugs, headphones, and a sleep mask. This will help them enjoy quiet time without disturbing their roommate, extending that initial honeymoon phase.
Don’ts:
- Don’t Overpack for Them: Allow your child to participate in the packing process so they know what’s where. Frustration will arise, but cherish those calls—they’ll become less frequent soon enough.
- Avoid Overloading the Closet: Space is limited, so pack wisely. And if you must send items later, do it early to avoid long lines at the campus post office.
- Let Them Take the Lead: Resist the urge to unpack and decorate their space. This is their opportunity for independence, and they’ll likely rearrange things anyway.
- Keep the Door Open: Use a doorstop while unpacking. This invites neighbors to come by, which can be a great way to break the ice.
- Stay Out of Conflicts: If any issues arise, let your child navigate them. They will be living with their roommate, not you.
- Control Your Emotions: While it’s a significant milestone, maintain your composure. This should be a jubilant occasion marking years of hard work.
- Capture Memories: Take plenty of photos and share hugs before parting ways—preferably not in front of their new roommate.
- Attend Orientation: Don’t skip orientation programs. They’re invaluable for learning more about the school and meeting others.
- Send a Surprise: Include a little token in their suitcase and plan to send a care package a few weeks post-move with their favorite snacks or magazines.
- Avoid Hovering: Stay in touch with calls or texts but resist the urge to micromanage. They’ll handle their own responsibilities in time.
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In summary, moving a child into college is a bittersweet experience that blends excitement with a tinge of sadness. Preparing well, allowing them independence, and maintaining a supportive yet respectful distance will ensure a positive transition for both you and your child.