For years, I’ve pondered whether my family would ever feel complete. Would I reach a point where the longing for a newborn would fade? Would I stop envying those mothers cradling their infants, inhaling that delightful baby scent, as I instead dealt with the odors of my rambunctious older kids? Would I finally let go of the outgrown onesies, Halloween costumes, and cherished board books, clinging to the hope that they might be needed again? Would that gnawing ache ever subside?
I have friends who instantly knew after their first child that they were done. Some even took permanent measures after their first or second child, firmly deciding they never wanted to endure childbirth again. Others never desired to become parents at all. Yet, I never felt that level of certainty.
For five years, I thought three kids might be my ideal number. It’s a nice, balanced figure—typically, there’s at least one child who isn’t testing my patience at any given time. But then, the sudden wave of baby fever would hit, and the idea of a family of six would seem more inviting than crazy. Each time my period was late, I found myself on an emotional rollercoaster, envisioning various future scenarios.
A Moment of Realization
Then, last week, everything changed. In a bizarre moment of realization—prompted by a missing IUD—I found myself picturing life with four children. I visualized the infant car seat, the formula, the unending diapers, and the sleepless nights. I thought of those treasured midnight moments and the first smiles, steps, and birthdays. However, for the first time, instead of imagining joyful family moments, all I could see were escalating expenses, stress, and chaos.
And just like that, the moment passed. There would be no new baby. But instead of the familiar feelings of longing and disappointment, I was overwhelmed with relief. It was then that I understood: my number is three.
What About You?
Do you know yours?
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Conclusion
In summary, the journey to finding the right family size can be filled with uncertainty and emotional ups and downs. While some parents feel certain about their choices, others may take time to come to terms with their ideal number. Ultimately, it’s about what feels right for you.