When my youngest, Timmy, shields his ears against the loud strumming of a guitar, some parents might adjust the volume. But me? I instinctively reach for my camera.
For over seven years, I’ve honed this habit without facing much critique—until now. Recently, during a chaotic dinner, our little one, Timmy, was enthusiastically launching pasta, beans, and strawberries across the room. Naturally, I grabbed my camera, snapping shot after shot in hopes of capturing that perfect moment. Just then, my older daughter, Bella, piped up, “Mom, shouldn’t you stop him from throwing food instead of taking pictures?” Touché.
I’m grateful to have someone to keep me grounded in my parenting role. It often makes me ponder the implications of my relentless documentation. Am I creating a scenario where my children believe that the ideal photo opportunity surpasses the true experience? I still remember the time I forgot my camera at Bella’s ballet recital. I berated myself until she casually remarked, “Mama, you just have to watch me.” And she was right.
This leads me to question the benefits of being both the family archivist and a parent. After years of capturing their lives, do I know how to be present without the urge to document? Am I doing this for their memories or my own (and does it even matter)? Will this chronicling ultimately lead to family therapy bills? Will my kids recognize my face without a camera in front of it?
These are important reflections for anyone grappling with similar concerns. Personally, I choose to embrace the risks because I believe my intentions are pure. I’m offering my children a gift that also satisfies my creative outlet, showing them that their lives—messy moments included—are worth celebrating.
As they navigate the complexities of adulthood, I hope to share stories of their childhood from my perspective, allowing us all to reminisce and perhaps laugh about the delightful (and occasionally chaotic) journey of being a family.
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Summary
This article explores the balance between documenting family moments and living in the present as a parent. The author reflects on the importance of cherishing memories while questioning the potential impact of constant photography on her children’s understanding of their experiences. It highlights the value of storytelling and connection amidst the chaos of family life.