After the arrival of my second child, I jumped back into my career. I was excited to have a new position, eager to return to the hustle of the trading floor, and determined that my young sons wouldn’t hinder my professional ambitions. However, shortly after I resumed work, my nanny called to inform me that she was unwell and unable to care for my children that day.
Telling my boss I needed to leave was not an option, so I reached out to my husband, asking him to step in. As soon as I ended that call, a familiar doubt crept in: How can I manage all of this?
For every woman who has questioned the feasibility of balancing work, family, and personal life, Laura Vanderkam’s insightful book, I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time, offers a solution. She interviewed 143 accomplished mothers, asking them to meticulously log their time over the course of one week. Vanderkam explains, “Everyone has opinions on having it all. I want to show, moment by moment, how it’s really done.”
Though the sample size is small, the revelations are significant. These women manage to prioritize sleep, enjoy quality moments with their families, partake in leisure activities, and excel in their careers. They achieve this by focusing on what truly matters and thoughtfully organizing their schedules to fit these priorities.
Vanderkam emphasizes a crucial point: while there are days—sometimes weeks—when it feels impossible to accomplish everything, it doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy fulfilling lives that encompass work, family, and personal time. It simply indicates that, on certain days, we may not strike the perfect balance, but over time, we certainly can.
She encourages women to abandon the pursuit of perfection in their homes or lives. Letting go of the belief that you must do everything alone and seeking help when needed is vital. Moreover, dismissing the negative narrative that you lack time can open doors to creative solutions.
One of Vanderkam’s core messages is that many of us have more time available than we realize. Initially, I resisted this idea, but my own experience validated her claim. When I discovered that a manuscript I believed was due on November 1 was actually due on September 1, I felt overwhelmed. Jet-lagged from a family trip to England, I unexpectedly found myself awake at 3 a.m. one night. In the tranquility of my home, my productivity soared—it turned out that I could accomplish far more in those early hours than during the day.
Throughout that summer, I effectively adjusted my schedule to align with my newfound productivity. I started each day at 3 a.m., worked until 7 a.m., then took my kids to their summer programs before writing until I needed to pick them up again. After putting my youngest to bed at 8:30 p.m., I would rest, leaving my husband to manage our older sons. By adapting my routine, I met my deadline and learned, as Vanderkam illustrates, that time is flexible and can yield surprising results when managed wisely.
Vanderkam’s insights provide reassurance that it is indeed possible to harmoniously blend family responsibilities, a thriving career, and personal time. If you’ve ever doubted your ability to juggle these aspects of life, this book reveals that you absolutely can.
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In summary, achieving a harmonious balance between work and family is challenging but certainly attainable. By prioritizing what truly matters and managing time effectively, women can successfully navigate their careers while nurturing their families.