Do you recall the essence of Valentine’s Day before the chaos of parenthood? No? Let’s take a stroll down memory lane and explore the contrasts of Valentine’s Day then and now.
Then:
The evening prior to Valentine’s Day was all about self-care—book a bikini wax, pick out some flirty lingerie, and gather ingredients for a decadent dessert.
Now:
The night before Valentine’s Day is spent tending to the aftermath of a scooter accident, cleaning snot off your shirt, and racing to the store for gauze and medical tape.
Then:
The night before, it was a delightful ritual—ordering Thai takeout, soaking in a warm bubble bath, painting your toenails, sipping a glass of wine, and cuddling with your partner.
Now:
The evening consists of pizza on the couch, watching a rerun of Hawaii 5-0, and maneuvering two energetic kids on your lap to make room for the family cat.
Then:
Valentine’s Day morning would bring a lovely surprise—breakfast in bed! (Menu: champagne, fresh orange juice, and a naked partner.)
Now:
Valentine’s Day morning features a less-than-surprising breakfast in bed, especially since the little one spilled the juice yesterday, causing a meltdown. (Menu: orange juice, an apple, a giant chunk of butter…oh, and toast.) You attempt to eat while two rambunctious children romp and squabble on the bed. The sheets come off, and you find yourself starting the laundry before heading to the kitchen to clean up the mess.
Then:
A Valentine’s Day gift would be a box of Godiva chocolates, savored slowly over the course of a week, along with a heartfelt card.
Now:
Instead, you receive a box of truffles from a discount store, consumed in a rush within three hours—none left for you. This card.
Then:
The evening would culminate in a romantic dinner at an elegant restaurant, followed by intimate moments and drifting off in your partner’s arms, feeling cozy and content.
Now:
The night rolls around with frozen potstickers, a glass of champagne, and a TiVo’d episode of American Idol. You find time to take out the garbage, clean the hamster cage, and intervene in a sibling squabble before you eventually crawl into bed two hours ahead of your partner—exhausted.
But hey, at least champagne remains a constant! And those sloppy kisses and handmade cards from the kids remind you that it’s all worthwhile, even if one of those drawings features you with oversized jazz hands.
Children: 2. Valentine’s Day: 0.
This article was originally published on Feb. 14, 2010.
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Summary:
Valentine’s Day has transformed dramatically from romantic evenings and self-care rituals to chaotic mornings and parenting duties. The essence of the day now includes managing kids while reminiscing about the carefree celebrations of the past. Nonetheless, the joy brought by children’s affection makes the journey worthwhile.