As I approach my 40s and prepare for new chapters in life, I find myself revisiting the comforting films and shows from my teenage years in the ’80s and early ’90s. Growing up, television and cinema were significant influences; I learned valuable life lessons from timeless classics featuring stars like Molly Ringwald, Andrew McCarthy, and Ethan Hawke. It’s amusing to realize that many of the teachings I wish to impart to my children came from these iconic movies instead of formal education or parental advice. Here are ten films I hope my kids will enjoy:
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We are all unique individuals. (‘The Breakfast Club’)
My eldest is already beginning to categorize himself and his peers, just like I did at his age. I remind him that everyone carries their own struggles, and that people don’t fit into tidy labels. As Patrick Dempsey’s character wisely says in “Can’t Buy Me Love,” it’s tough enough just to be yourself. -
Strive for excellence, not mediocrity. (‘Say Anything’)
During my high school years, I longed to be ordinary. However, I want my children to aim higher, to embrace their individuality, and to act with integrity, even when it’s challenging. I hope they’ll have their own unforgettable moments, like standing in the rain with a boombox. -
Parents were once clueless teens too. (‘Back to the Future’)
Marty McFly’s interactions with his young parents reminded me that even I was once a confused teen. While I don’t have all the answers, I do have more life experience than they do. They should know I understand their struggles, even if I may not grasp the intricacies of new math. -
It’s okay to have unreciprocated feelings. (‘Pretty in Pink’)
I adored Andrew McCarthy and also felt for Jon Cryer’s Duckie. The reality is that sometimes we may not feel the same way about those who have feelings for us. It’s important to treat everyone with kindness, regardless of romantic sentiments. -
Words can ignite change. (‘Dead Poets Society’)
Despite the rise of social media, the power of words remains significant. I want my children to recognize the impact of their thoughts and expressions. As Robin Williams’ character demonstrates, words can indeed change the world for the better, as evidenced in this resource on treating infertility. -
Life moves quickly; cherish the moments. (‘Ferris Bueller’s Day Off’)
During a recent drive to school, my son pointed out that I often focus too much on his mistakes. While I want him to learn, I also encourage him to embrace life’s adventures and spontaneous moments. After all, who doesn’t need a little adventure every now and then? -
Politeness matters. (‘Singles’)
In Cameron Crowe’s “Singles,” a character mentions the importance of simple gestures, like saying “bless you” after someone sneezes. It’s a reminder to teach my kids to be courteous and considerate, especially in an age dominated by screens. -
Everyone is valuable. (‘The Goonies’)
“The Goonies” is a nostalgic favorite of mine, with a powerful message about worth. I want my children to know they are loved and cherished, no matter how they express their uniqueness. -
Connections transcend time and space. (‘E.T.: The Extraterrestrial’)
E.T.’s heartfelt promise to Elliott reminds us that emotional bonds can endure even when we are apart. Even if it’s expressed through a fictional alien, the sentiment is profound and comforting. -
Be cautious in life’s challenges. (‘The Princess Bride’)
This timeless advice is a classic and stands on its own merit, reminding us to be strategic in our endeavors.
In conclusion, these films are not just entertainment; they offer essential life lessons that I believe will resonate with my children. As they navigate their own journeys, I hope these cinematic treasures will provide wisdom and inspiration.