The first time someone referred to me as a “supermom,” I was taking a walk with my newborn son, who was just two weeks old. Struggling with postpartum anxiety and still recovering from childbirth, I felt the pressure to get out of the house, having been cooped up since returning from the hospital. My neighbor offered help as I wrestled with the stroller, but I stubbornly declined. I was determined to handle everything on my own, even though I was in pain, and eventually managed to fold the stroller while carrying my baby in a front pack.
“You’re going to be a supermom!” he cheerfully declared.
As I waddled around with a swollen belly, pregnant with my third child while juggling a toddler and an infant, the “supermom” label followed me everywhere. Strangers would marvel at how I managed to dress nicely, keep the house clean, coordinate my children’s outfits, and even bake cookies. With each compliment, I felt the weight of expectation grow heavier. If others saw me as super, I thought I had to live up to that image.
Every time someone came over, I would frantically prepare to ensure everything was perfect. Meals were homemade, the house was spotless, and I was always ready with a planned activity for the kids. I rushed through my days, collapsing into exhaustion each night, hair styled, candles lit, and a smile plastered on my face.
But internally, I was crumbling. After that first encounter with the “supermom” label, I felt compelled to embody it as if my very identity depended on it. Transitioning from being the main breadwinner to a stay-at-home mom left me searching for something more than just motherhood to define myself.
The pressure to perform was entirely self-imposed. New mothers often feel vulnerable and overwhelmed by change; they seek validation and purpose in their new roles. They crave acknowledgment for their efforts and want to feel that their sacrifices are meaningful.
It wasn’t until after my divorce that I began to let go of the unrealistic standards I had set for myself. I stopped stressing over how my kids were dressed and let the house become a bit messier. I ventured out without makeup, shifted my focus from volunteering to discovering what truly made me happy.
This relentless pursuit of the “supermom” ideal is not just exhausting; it’s damaging. When we finally do seek help, those around us are often taken aback, having only seen our perfect facade for so long. They fail to realize that we are struggling beneath the surface.
You can only maintain that role for so long before it becomes unsustainable. Trust me.
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Summary:
The concept of the “supermom” can create unrealistic expectations for new mothers, leading to unnecessary pressure and mental strain. My journey as a recovering “supermom” taught me the importance of self-care and authenticity over perfection. Letting go of the need to impress others helped me reshape my identity and find joy in motherhood without the burden of constant competition.