I’m going to be upfront: I let my kids curse at home. While some parents might be appalled to hear their child utter a swear word, it doesn’t really bother me. I have a fondness for language, and a few curse words here and there don’t offend me, even when they come from my children.
One afternoon, during an outing that was meant to be wholesome and delightful, my eldest spotted a sign in a Dunkin’ Donuts window that read, “So. Pumpkin. Good.” He laughed and remarked, “Ha. Instead of so f*ckin’ good, it says so pumpkin good.”
I tried to suppress my laughter and asked him why he felt the need to say that word out loud. He replied, “I don’t know! My brain was saying, ‘Don’t say it. Don’t say it,’ but my mouth was like, ‘Go for it.’” I completely understood; I’ve had my mouth override my brain for all 37 years of my life. Clearly, this kid is a chip off the old block.
Some might think he deserved a reprimand, but I simply reminded him to avoid using adult language too often for a few more years and to keep it to our home or the car. We both found it amusing that my usually well-behaved son would drop an F-bomb so perfectly. He walked away without any shame, which I valued.
Honestly, it was a sharp observation. He grasped the humor in the sign, and I appreciate that. I’m okay with him finding joy in a silly marketing gimmick—just as long as he waits a bit longer before using that particular curse again.
This was my first real encounter with swearing from my kids, but I’ve heard the occasional “damn it” or “s-word” slip out before. If a light curse escapes my children in the comfort of our home or car, I honestly don’t mind.
My kids hear curse words almost every day. They hear their parents swear and are exposed to other adults who do the same. Movies, TV shows, popular songs, and the podcasts I listen to are all filled with colorful language.
In our household, swear words are just that—words. We don’t treat them as taboo. I want my kids to hear me say “damn it!” without feeling like I’m doing something wrong or immoral. Assigning that level of importance to something so trivial seems unnecessary.
We have rules, and the kids are aware of them. They know that swearing is generally viewed as adult language, and they should aim for less jarring alternatives. I’ve explained that once they start using swears casually, they may unintentionally let them slip in inappropriate settings—like school—where I can’t protect them from the fallout.
My husband and I never use swear words to insult anyone, and our kids understand that’s a firm boundary. We don’t even resort to regular words for name-calling in our home. The ultimate goal is for our conversations to be kind, truthful, and constructive, which doesn’t include cursing.
I’ve devoted a lot of energy to helping my children navigate the complex world of social interactions. We frequently discuss the distinction between private topics and those suitable for public discourse. For instance, my boys can announce their bodily functions in their own room and laugh about it, but they know better than to do that in the school library. Children understand how to adapt their language to fit the situation, so I trust them to make the right choices.
I believe this approach will demystify swearing and cultivate an environment of moderation. Or it may just land me in the principal’s office one day if one of my kids forgets their manners and decides to throw around some colorful language at school. Only time will tell!
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In summary, my approach to letting my kids swear at home revolves around creating a comfortable environment where they can navigate language without fear. While I maintain guidelines, I believe that treating swearing as a normal part of communication will help them learn moderation and appropriateness over time.