“Who could possibly turn to Ben Affleck for parenting advice?” said no one ever. Affleck has been a fixture in pop culture for nearly four decades, and while we’ve had our ups and downs with him, his role in Good Will Hunting still resonates. And yes, we can’t help but be curious about his relationship with Jennifer Lopez. Recently, it seemed like we might be warming up to him again—until we read his interview in the Wall Street Journal.
In the interview, during a discussion about his latest film, The Tender Bar—which explores a boy’s search for father figures in the wake of his own father’s absence—Affleck shared some rather antiquated views on parenting. He quoted a line from the memoir that inspired the film: “To be a man, a boy must see a man.” His response? “It’s important to have two parents for the rearing and upbringing of a child. The most important thing to me is to be a good father. Boys need to be taught how to behave, how to conduct yourself. What your values should be.”
Unpacking Affleck’s Views
Let’s take a moment to unpack this. First off, the idea that children require two parents to thrive is as outdated as floppy disks. Single parents, whether by choice or circumstance, can raise successful, well-adjusted children. We could list countless accomplished individuals raised by a single parent, from Adele to Jay-Z, but we won’t take up too much space.
Next, it’s essential to note that boys don’t need a father figure to learn how to be good human beings. Just like girls don’t require a mother to teach them kindness or morality. This outdated notion has been debunked time and again, and yet here we are, listening to these tired stereotypes. Research indicates that kids raised by LGBTQ+ parents are just as healthy and often more empathetic than their peers.
Is there a need for male role models? The data is mixed. While involved fathers can positively influence kids, the gender of the parent doesn’t seem to matter as much as their involvement. In fact, The Tender Bar itself underscores the idea that father figures can come from various places, not just biological connections.
Conclusion
To summarize: we really don’t need Ben Affleck’s outdated parenting insights, particularly when they contradict decades of research. But do keep us posted if you get engaged to J-Lo again.
On a more positive note, Affleck did reflect on his life choices and the lessons he’s learned. He expressed a desire for his younger self to understand things differently and acknowledged that he’s continuously evolving. “There’s a lot that I would want my younger self to understand,” he shared, “wishing I could have avoided painful events.”
We hope he reconsiders his views on parenting, especially in today’s diverse family structures. In the meantime, we’ll be revisiting some of his better films like The Town, which deserves more recognition.
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In summary, while Affleck’s insights may be rooted in a bygone era, there’s always room for growth and understanding in parenting today.