I recently came across an article suggesting that cisgender women should explain their menstrual cycles to their cisgender male roommates, whether they are partners or friends, to lessen the embarrassment they might feel and reduce the likelihood of awkward questions. But that responsibility shouldn’t fall solely on those who menstruate; managing a menstrual cycle is challenging enough. Everyone, regardless of gender, should have a clear understanding of menstruation, and this education should begin long before any romantic relationship or shared living situation. Parents and educators need to address this topic early and often.
Research by YouGov and Bodyform revealed that 72% of cisgender males have never received education about the menstrual cycle. A follow-up study by INTIMINA confirmed that the knowledge gap persists, with only 41% of male-identifying individuals able to accurately describe menstruation. Many of their beliefs were also incorrect.
Common Misconceptions
Here are some common misconceptions identified by INTIMINA:
- 52% of surveyed cis men believed the menstrual cycle lasts only 1-6 days, not realizing that it typically spans about 28 days.
- 36% thought menstruation wouldn’t affect them personally.
- 65% were unfamiliar with menstrual cups, and many couldn’t accurately identify the price of tampons.
- 42% were under the impression that pregnancy couldn’t occur during menstruation.
- Alarmingly, 33% of fathers preferred that a woman explain menstruation to their daughters.
Despite this, 78% of participants recognized the importance of educating cis boys about periods.
Breaking the Stigma
Breaking down the stigma and inappropriate jokes surrounding menstruation would make this education process smoother. Many people still feel uncomfortable discussing it, which leads to avoidance. Yes, periods can be messy, but so are many everyday topics that we discuss openly.
Due to this stigma, 90% of female-identifying menstruators reported feeling anxious about attending school while on their period due to the fear of ridicule and shame. This is not only unfair but also disheartening. We need to move past the immature “ew, cooties!” mentality and engage in respectful, empathetic conversations about menstruation that don’t make those who bleed feel dirty or labeled as “crazy” or overly emotional.
Inclusivity in Menstruation Education
This issue is not exclusive to women. Nonbinary individuals and transgender men also experience menstruation, while many cis and trans women do not. It’s crucial that cisgender boys—essentially all assigned male at birth—expand their understanding.
One compelling reason for all genders to learn about menstruation is simply that it’s a scientific topic. Understanding human biology should not be confined to binary gender experiences. The process of creating human life cannot be fully discussed without including the menstrual cycle. So why exclude half the population from this important conversation?
Expert Insights
Dr. Jamie Collins, a Sexual and Reproductive Health expert, suggests that boys and men should be informed that menstruation is a normal and healthy process for those with a uterus and ovaries. She emphasizes the importance of discussing menstrual products in a direct and nonjudgmental manner.
For anyone assigned male at birth—especially cis men—in relationships with people who can conceive, it’s essential to understand that partners can become pregnant during their period. This knowledge is vital for planning pregnancies and avoiding unwanted ones, especially with the current climate of increasing abortion restrictions. It would be wonderful for all adults to have open, supportive conversations about menstruation, eliminating the need for a cis woman to shoulder that burden alone.
Understanding the Challenges
Cisgender men and individuals assigned male at birth also need to recognize the financial challenges associated with menstrual products, as well as the physical and emotional toll periods can take on individuals. Many face period poverty and are unable to afford necessary products, leading to missed school or work due to pain or discomfort. Dr. Collins advises that boys and men likely live with or know menstruators, so being aware of PMS symptoms like cravings and cramps can be incredibly helpful.
Having a cisgender male partner, friend, or colleague who understands menstruation can make a significant difference in supporting someone rather than shaming them. Let’s not be the people who make menstruation more difficult for others, nor raise others who fear a box of tampons.
Further Reading
For more insights into this topic, check out our other blog post at Home Insemination Kit. Furthermore, Intracervical Insemination offers valuable information on this subject, and Healthline is an excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.
Conclusion
In summary, it’s vital for everyone to understand menstruation, regardless of gender. This knowledge fosters empathy and prepares individuals for relationships and responsibilities, creating a more informed and respectful society.