When I was 24, I welcomed my first child into the world. From the moment I learned I was pregnant, breastfeeding felt like the only choice for me. I had read extensively about its advantages, from boosting immunity to reducing the risk of ear infections.
However, when my son arrived, we faced challenges right away. He struggled with latching, and once my milk came in, I became so engorged that nursing became nearly impossible. I dealt with painful, cracked nipples, yet I persisted, convinced that stopping would mean I was failing him. I suffered through it alone, never receiving reassurance that it was okay to stop if needed. Fast forward to today, and many mothers are feeling similar pressures amid the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic.
Numerous factors contribute to the difficulties women face while breastfeeding. These include inadequate support, limited access to resources and education, and insufficient paid maternity leave. In the U.S., many women return to work sooner than in other countries, and numerous workplaces lack the necessary facilities for pumping. For some mothers, the thought of transporting pumping equipment is daunting—pumping is no easy task!
Research conducted during the pandemic has shed light on the presence of COVID-19 antibodies in breast milk. A recent study led by Dr. Sarah Mitchell revealed that 88% of breast milk samples from women who recovered from COVID-19 contained IgA antibodies, which can neutralize the virus, providing a layer of protection for infants. With the CDC now urging pregnant and breastfeeding women to get vaccinated, even more mothers will have access to this protective “liquid gold.”
While this is undoubtedly encouraging news, I reflect on my experiences as a first-time mom. At 31, I feel more equipped in my breastfeeding journey, especially after recovering from COVID-19. But my younger self, struggling with pain and anxiety, would have found it overwhelming to navigate breastfeeding during these challenging times. She would have benefited from someone reassuring her that it was perfectly fine to choose another feeding method if necessary.
Despite healthcare professionals promoting the idea that “fed is best,” I often sensed an underlying expectation for breastfeeding. During my first experience, I was never presented with the option of formula; instead, my pediatrician directed me to a lactation consultant for assistance. I can only imagine the added stress for mothers attempting to breastfeed while managing the risks associated with COVID-19, especially when leaving home with a newborn feels perilous and medical appointments are scarce.
It’s essential to recognize that some mothers may simply not wish to breastfeed or may be unable to do so, and that choice is valid. The societal pressure to breastfeed, now compounded by health concerns, can be overwhelming, particularly for those grappling with postpartum depression or anxiety.
Thoughts like, “If I don’t breastfeed and my baby gets sick, it’s my fault,” can weigh heavily on a new mother. The fear of regret for not trying harder can be daunting, leading to an unhealthy obsession with every drop of milk. While the risk of severe illness in young children due to COVID-19 is lower compared to adults, the anxiety over their safety can be paralyzing.
As soon as we become parents, our focus shifts entirely to our children, often at the expense of our well-being. While I appreciate the valuable information available regarding COVID-19, vaccines, and breastfeeding, I believe mothers don’t need any additional pressure. We are already doing our best under incredibly challenging circumstances.
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Summary
The pressures on mothers to breastfeed have intensified during the COVID-19 pandemic, with many facing significant challenges due to societal expectations and health concerns. While recent studies highlight the benefits of breast milk in providing COVID-19 antibodies, the emotional toll on new mothers is substantial. It’s imperative to acknowledge the diverse experiences of mothers and the need for support without added pressure.