I’ve always been aware of my body, but as I age, I’ve started to embrace it more. I’m wearing outfits that show off my curves and even a bit of cleavage—something I wouldn’t have dreamed of doing in my younger years. After a long journey of self-acceptance, I’ve decided there’s no point in hiding who I am.
Recently, my husband and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an upscale restaurant. I dressed up in a stylish black jumpsuit that flattered my figure, complete with fake lashes. Feeling great about myself, we snapped a selfie to mark the occasion. When I reviewed the photo, I noticed my cleavage was prominent. I hesitated and asked my husband if we should crop it. He assured me I looked wonderful, so I posted it on social media with a sweet message to him about our years together and our four kids.
The evening was lovely, and I cherished the time spent away from the kids. Upon returning home, I saw that my post had received many likes and warm wishes from friends. However, one comment shattered my mood.
A so-called “friend” of my husband from high school, whom I’ve never met, wrote, “Congrats! I also just remembered I need to get two jugs of milk at the store.” Seriously? I was stunned. It’s baffling that someone would think it’s acceptable to body shame anyone, especially the wife of their “friend.”
Initially, I chose to stay silent, but after a friend inquired about the commenter, I felt compelled to respond. So, I replied to his post: “Comments like these are what’s wrong with our society. A woman tries to be body positive and is shamed for it. No wonder we often feel the need to hide our bodies. I refuse to let this get me down; I was happy with how I looked that night, and my husband called me beautiful—that’s what truly matters.”
His response? Nothing. It’s easy to hide behind a screen, but when confronted, the coward had no words. My husband crafted several responses but ultimately blocked him. I was fine with that; I didn’t need him to defend me—I could handle it myself. People like this are not friends; they create insecurity, and it needs to end now.
Body shaming is unacceptable. I’ve struggled with my own insecurities, particularly regarding my figure. Words have lasting effects, often haunting us for years. It’s crucial that we speak out against such comments. Many brands are starting to embrace diverse body types, and platforms like Pinterest are taking a stand against diet culture by banning weight loss ads.
Celebrate your body! Treat it with kindness, nourish it, and don’t hesitate to show off what you love or to call out anyone who tries to bring you down. If I ever meet that guy, I’ll remind him of his ignorance and the impact of his words, which I’ve documented. Always take those screenshots!
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