If you’ve decided that your family is complete and the idea of having more kids is off the table, you’re definitely not alone. Perhaps you chose to stop at one child, or maybe you decided two was your limit to avoid being outnumbered. Some parents even draw the line at three or four, feeling that anything beyond that is simply too much. Whatever your situation, you’ve reached a point of certainty about your family size.
It’s natural to occasionally reminisce about the baby days as your little ones grow more independent, but your “oven” is officially closed for business. You are done—no more additions. If this resonates with you, know that many moms share your sentiment. The community of mothers in our confessional is all about celebrating the choice to not have more children (not to say they’re done with intimacy, just with baby-making)!
Candid Thoughts from Moms
Here are some candid thoughts from moms who are content with their decision:
- “I eventually embraced my partner’s wish to not have more kids. I adore my son from my previous marriage, but I’ve come to realize I’m not suited for parenting additional children. No regrets. Being one and done is truly wonderful.” – Confessional #25811962
- “I see women around me with three or more kids, thriving and smiling. It only took me two kids to feel utterly exhausted. Psychologically and physically, I’m a shell of my former self, just trying to get through each day. Why do I feel like a failure?” – Confessional #25811508
- “I simply don’t want any more kids. Just one is perfect for me! Why can’t others respect my choice and let me be?” – Confessional #25805972
- “It turns out I’m too selfish to have more kids. Our daughter is six months old, and I thought I’d enjoy motherhood more. I think we’ll stick with one.” – Confessional #25791294
While some mothers make the decision to stop at one child, others find that circumstances dictate their choices. However, there’s a common thread among them: they are all adamant about not having any more kids.
- “I despise how my body has changed since having my baby. I don’t want another child, yet I feel guilty that my little one might be lonely as an only child.” – Confessional #25789503
- “My husband wants another baby, but I don’t. He doesn’t help much, and I’m already stretched thin managing my son, who has autism. I’m staying on birth control.” – Confessional #25785267
- “He was drunk when I had my C-section, so I had my tubes tied without him knowing. Now he’s confused about why we don’t have more kids. It’s so I can manage my life without him!” – Confessional #25783700
- “If my son ever asks why he’s an only child, I’ll tell him the truth: he was so challenging that we were terrified to have another kid like him!” – Confessional #25779958
It’s common for moms to feel guilty about having an “only child” because they can’t manage another pregnancy or child. However, it’s essential to remember: don’t feel guilty! An only child can thrive with a content and healthy parent, and there’s no shame in prioritizing your well-being. Anyone who tries to make you feel bad about your decision is not worth your time.
- “My husband wants more kids, but I’m happy with the twins we have. I just don’t want any more!” – Confessional #24265072
- “If we had family nearby to help, we might have considered more kids. But without that support, we often felt overwhelmed with the ones we have.” – Confessional #24228591
And for a light-hearted take on the subject: “Despite what I tell people about wanting more kids, the truth is neither of us is exactly a genetic jackpot; surprise, my son got all the good genes! I’m not risking that again.” – Confessional #24092090
No matter your reasons for deciding against more children, they are valid. Stand firm in your choice and don’t let anyone pressure you otherwise.
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In summary, it’s entirely valid to feel complete with your current family size. Many mothers share this perspective, and it’s important to embrace your decision without guilt or pressure from others. Whether it’s a matter of personal preference, physical well-being, or other circumstances, your choice is yours to own.