These moms are sharing their secrets to achieving a good night’s sleep: separate bedrooms.
We’ve all experienced it—your partner is snoring loudly, hogging the blankets, or simply taking up too much space. You want to escape, but it’s your bed, and guilt or stubbornness keeps you there. However, these moms are completely unashamed of their choice to sleep in separate rooms because, ultimately, whatever works for them is what matters!
But for some moms, the decision to sleep apart is heartbreaking, as it reflects deeper issues in their relationships.
“I refer to him as the guy I live with, not my boyfriend. To be in a relationship, you should actually have a relationship. We spend our time in separate rooms, and I’ve been sleeping on the couch for over two years.”
“My husband told me he’s leaving me but we still share a home and sleep in separate rooms. Occasionally, we have moments of intimacy, which is confusing.”
“Once the kids are in bed, my husband and I watch TV for an hour without talking, then head to our separate rooms. I’m not sure how long we can keep living like this.”
While some couples find comfort in separate bedrooms, it’s not always the case.
“My husband is 6’5″ and built like a linebacker, and our queen-sized bed felt more like a matchbox. During my first pregnancy, I needed my own space and slept in a separate room. Now, we splurged on a king-sized bed, and it’s been amazing!”
But not everyone finds the separation ideal.
“My husband is a good guy, but I’m not in love with him anymore. Sleeping in separate rooms feels awkward, yet there’s relief when I close the door.”
“My friend can’t understand why we sleep apart, but I have a severe sleep disorder! We still have an active physical relationship, unlike her and her husband.”
“On our wedding anniversary, we exchanged cards but haven’t kissed—now we’re in our separate rooms. This is not the life I envisioned.”
“Due to my husband’s snoring, I’ve been sleeping in another room. I actually enjoy it more than I ever thought possible.”
If you find yourself in a cis-het relationship, you may have fantasized about having your own space again—not because you dislike your partner, but because you want a place free of clutter and filled with your favorite things.
“My husband’s snoring has been an issue for 25 years, and finally, I decided it was time to get some solid rest. Now, when he tries to come into my space, it feels invasive.”
“Visiting family after a decade will be tough since we sleep in separate rooms at home due to different schedules. I need my sleep!”
“I started sleeping in the spare room shortly after we got married because I need complete darkness to sleep. I believe this is why we’ve stayed together for 26 years.”
“My husband has been unwell, so I slept in the guest room. Now that I’m back, I miss the quiet of the guest room. Is it wrong to want separate rooms just for sleeping?”
It seems many of these men might want to consider a sleep apnea study. Just a thought.
“Sleeping in separate rooms has saved our marriage. His snoring doesn’t wake me up, and my restless movements don’t disturb him. A well-rested couple is a happier couple!”
“My severe sleep disorder forces us to sleep apart. Our marriage is fine, and yes, we are intimate!”
“My husband thinks we sleep in separate rooms because I co-sleep with the baby, but in reality, it’s because I can’t stand him.”
“My partner and I sleep in different rooms because I can’t handle his snoring. Honestly, I think he’d stop if he lost some weight. Plus, ‘his’ bed is more comfortable!”
“We started sleeping separately so we could take turns with the baby. I love him, but having my own bed is a treasure.”
At the end of the day, do what feels right for you. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting your own space! If sleeping apart isn’t working for you, consider what changes could help.
And guys, please—let’s talk about the snoring!
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In summary, many couples find themselves sleeping in separate rooms for various reasons, from snoring to personal space needs. While some embrace this arrangement, others struggle with the emotional implications. Ultimately, maintaining a healthy relationship is about finding what works best for you and your partner.