The conversation surrounding breastfeeding often appears straightforward, but it can be anything but. While it is a beautiful and intimate experience, it can also be incredibly complex and varies greatly from one mother to another. One piece of advice that truly resonated with me came from my friend and nutritionist, Mia Thompson. After giving birth to my third child, Atlas, I was overwhelmed with joy yet filled with anxiety about the prospect of breastfeeding again, especially with my two toddlers waiting at home.
Initially, I began breastfeeding Atlas in the hospital, feeling as though I had no other option. As those early days passed, I found myself going through the motions, much like I had with my other two children. What weighed on me wasn’t just the fatigue from nighttime feedings, but rather the painful memories of cracked nipples, the struggle to achieve a proper latch, and the fear of not producing enough milk. Coupled with the pressure from consultants and the constant inquiry from hospital staff—“Are you exclusively breastfeeding?”—I felt a familiar wave of dread.
As I contemplated my situation, I couldn’t help but think about my two young children at home and my husband, who was recovering from an injury. Additionally, I had an impending breast implant removal surgery scheduled for a month after Atlas’s birth, which meant I would need to stop breastfeeding shortly after starting. Was enduring the pain and struggle for such a brief period truly worth it? It was a daunting question.
Reflecting on my previous experiences with my son, Leo, I remembered the challenges I faced during our breastfeeding journey. I had to exclusively pump due to difficulties in latching, which was especially tough as we traveled frequently. Despite my efforts and consultations with specialists, the breastfeeding experience was fraught with discomfort and logistics that made it nearly impossible to enjoy quality time with my child.
Eventually, I transitioned Leo to formula, which was difficult for me emotionally, despite knowing it was the right decision. I felt a lingering stigma around formula feeding, even though I openly encouraged others to embrace it without shame. The societal pressure surrounding breastfeeding is palpable, and I realized that the support for formula feeding was lacking, which left me feeling vulnerable in my choice.
When Atlas arrived, I knew I needed to confront my past experiences and make a decision quickly. After reaching out to Mia, she reassured me with the words, “A happy mom is a happy baby.” This gave me the permission I needed to prioritize my well-being, knowing it would benefit not just Atlas but also my other children and my husband.
With support from friends and family, I made the decision to switch to formula. My husband, Jake, was especially supportive as he could contribute to feeding, strengthening his bond with Atlas during his recovery. Even though I faced some pushback from hospital staff regarding my choice, having a solid support network made all the difference.
I share my story for those who may feel similar shame or judgment about their feeding choices. It’s essential to advocate for what works best for you and your family. Remember, a happy parent fosters a happy child. Prioritizing your needs is an act of love for your entire family.
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In summary, my experience with breastfeeding my third child was shaped by previous struggles, external pressures, and a need to prioritize my well-being. Choosing formula feeding allowed me to find balance and happiness in my new reality.