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In the aftermath of my initial breast cancer diagnosis, I found myself caught between fear and introspection. One conversation, in particular, lingered in my mind—one I had with a friend before my diagnosis. She had revealed that her mother wasn’t taking care of her health, skipping her annual gynecological appointments and mammograms. My friend, who shares my holistic lifestyle preferences, expressed her disdain for chemotherapy, declaring, “If I had cancer, I wouldn’t subject myself to those chemicals. I’d just wait and see.”
Then, I became one of the one in eight women diagnosed with invasive breast cancer, and suddenly, I had to make choices. Chemotherapy was an option, alongside radiation, hormone blockers, immunotherapy, and surgery. I faced the difficult decision between a lumpectomy with six weeks of radiation or a mastectomy. It’s a choice no woman wants to make, yet there I was, haunted by my friend’s words about chemotherapy.
Nearly four years have passed since my first diagnosis, during which I opted for a mastectomy. Fortunately, chemotherapy and other treatments were deemed unnecessary due to the early stage of my cancer. Just as I began to embrace my status as a breast cancer survivor, I discovered a mass in my chest wall. The cancer had returned.
I found myself once more in the whirlwind of ultrasounds, scans, lab work, consultations, and surgeries. Following two procedures within three weeks, I was thankfully declared cancer-free again. However, since recurrences can be unpredictable, I began to weigh my options. This time, my doctors and I concluded that chemotherapy, radiation, and immunotherapy were the best course of action.
This decision was not made lightly. I sought guidance from my trusted medical team, who are knowledgeable and experienced. As a mother of four, I considered what would be best for my family. I wanted to do everything possible to combat cancer rather than adopt a passive approach. Ultimately, I felt a sense of peace about my choice; my instincts urged me to pursue treatment.
I don’t feel the need to justify my decision to everyone who questions my choice of treatment; that would be exhausting. Over-explaining often leads to more scrutiny and doubt, and I certainly don’t need any additional judgment regarding my health journey.
However, I want to take a moment to address those who feel compelled to evaluate my decision to undergo chemotherapy, immunotherapy, and radiation. By sharing my story, I hope to resonate with others who are facing similar battles.
The only individual entitled to critique a patient’s choices is the patient themselves. What you might do in my situation is irrelevant. If you choose to share your thoughts on how you would handle cancer, you’re inadvertently making my struggle about you. Facing cancer is heart-wrenching and disorienting. When you insert your perspective into my experience—whether through a comment on social media, a disapproving look, or an article you read about alternative cancer treatments—you are being insensitive.
I understand that chemotherapy is toxic—that’s the point. Its purpose is to eliminate cancer cells, but it can’t differentiate between healthy and cancerous cells, which is why it comes with side effects. No one wants to endure hair loss, constant dry mouth, nausea, dizziness, or a host of other challenges that accompany chemotherapy, but it’s part of the deal. Those who choose this path don’t do so lightly.
If you know someone facing a challenging situation—be it cancer, a medical diagnosis, or any difficult life event—please refrain from offering unsolicited advice about what you would do. Instead, acknowledge their feelings and let them know you’re there for support. It’s perfectly acceptable to say, “This is tough.” Avoid saying things like “Everything happens for a reason” or insisting they simply “stay positive.”
Ask what they need. Do they want someone to listen? A cup of coffee? A ride to treatment? Whatever they ask for, do it without judgment. And please don’t say, “Let me know if you need anything,” as many of us are hesitant to burden others with our challenges.
While our culture often encourages us to voice opinions on various topics, the most important stance to take when someone you care about is facing a medical crisis is to stand beside them and respect their decisions.
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In summary, I’ve made the choice to pursue chemotherapy and other treatments based on careful consideration of my health and family. I ask for understanding and support rather than unsolicited opinions or judgments. Let’s focus on standing together in difficult times.