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My partner passed away on February 3, 2018, at 9:37 p.m. after a devastating and brief struggle with brain cancer. His passing shattered the foundations of my world. Everything I thought I understood about life and loss crumbled in an instant.
In that moment, I entered the realm of those who grieve. Though I had been mourning him for some time, as the illness had stripped away the essence of who he was long before his final breath. The moment he passed was the definitive point that plunged me into the depths of grief.
Now, three years later, I am still grappling with the concept of grief: its meaning, its sensations, and its manifestations. Often, my preconceived notions clash with the reality of it.
Before experiencing grief firsthand, I held certain beliefs about it—largely shaped by movies and societal narratives. Since becoming a griever, I’ve come to realize that many aspects of grief are misunderstood, although there are signs of progress in this area. Nonetheless, some misconceptions remain prevalent.
Misunderstanding: Grief Is A Single Emotion
Previously, I associated grief solely with someone crying at a funeral or donning black attire for a few weeks. I thought it could be defined simply as profound sadness. But that notion is misleading. Grief encompasses a tapestry of emotions—sadness, anger, anxiety, heartache, longing, nostalgia, and even hope—all intertwined.
Misunderstanding: Grief Is Singular
From an outside perspective, grief may seem focused on one specific loss. In reality, it is rarely this one-dimensional. I am grieving not only the loss of my partner but also our shared future, my sense of safety, the person I was before cancer entered our lives, and the innocence of my children. My grief is multifaceted.
Misunderstanding: Grief Won’t Alter Your Relationships
Grief forever changes your “normal.” You find yourself in a new reality, which in turn transforms your relationships. After a loss, you are a different person, and so is your entire world. Some people may not understand the new you, while others will. Ironically, some may depart when you thought they would stay, while unexpected support may emerge from others.
Misunderstanding: Grief Has A Timeline Or Time Heals All Wounds
The harsh truth about grief hit me on February 3, 2019—Super Bowl Sunday, marking one year since my loss. That day made it clear that I had to navigate another year without my partner. My grief did not vanish after a year; it remained. Grief is like a void that doesn’t diminish over time. Instead, life grows around it. Sometimes, that growth may obscure the void, but it never fully disappears.
Misunderstanding: Grief Is Linear
Many are familiar with the five stages of grief. While I know the concept exists, I couldn’t name all five stages or their order. I found acceptance came before I dealt with my anger, which surged at around the three-year mark. Grief is not a straight path; it’s a tumultuous ride filled with ups and downs that often loops back on itself.
Misunderstanding: Finding A New Partner (Or Having A New Baby, Making New Friends, Etc.) Means Your Grief Is Over
This misconception hits hardest. It minimizes the depth of grief and suggests that the person we lost can be replaced. Even if someone new enters our lives, they are not a substitute for the one we’ve lost. The void and grief remain. New relationships simply expand the life around that hole without erasing it.
Before February 3, 2018, I had no true understanding of grief or of living with a permanent void. The reality is that you can only truly grasp grief once you experience it yourself, once you endure a loss. However, this understanding also brings insight into love and hope, allowing even the darkest moments to shine with a flicker of light.
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In summary, grief is a complex and multifaceted experience that challenges our understanding and expectations. It can reshape our relationships and perceptions of the world, reminding us that love and loss coexist within us.