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Some people enjoy oral sex, while others may not. Preferences vary—some love giving while others prefer receiving, and there are those who reserve their oral talents for culinary delights. However, if you find joy in giving oral pleasure because it brings happiness to your partner or boosts your confidence, we’ve got some tips to make your next experience truly memorable (not literally on fire, of course, but you get the idea).
I’ve always liked giving a good oral experience, and I often find myself aiming to see how quickly I can bring my partner to climax. It’s like a challenge! But I also want it to be meaningful. I want my partner to feel the affection and energy I’m putting into our intimate moments—otherwise, what’s the point? I don’t want them to feel like they’re being forced to do something unpleasant. I aim to create a pleasurable experience for both of us.
We spoke with Mia Harper, a certified intimacy expert and author, who shared some great advice. One of her best tips? Get yourself taken care of first. Can I get an amen? Harper suggests that before you dive into giving oral pleasure, make sure you’ve had your needs met. “Have your partner focus on you first—this way, you’re in a better mindset to give pleasure,” she explains. Who doesn’t love multiple orgasms?
Remember to relax and be yourself—you don’t need to perform like a star. Find a comfortable position, whether you’re on your knees on the bed or sofa. Approach your partner from a side angle or between their legs, allowing you to use one hand to stroke their shaft in rhythm with your mouth. Harper advises against deep-throating the whole time, as that can lead to discomfort. The experience should be enjoyable for both of you.
You don’t have to take your partner to climax with oral alone; it can be a fantastic way to build excitement for what’s to come. Start with gentle kisses on their stomach, tease around their penis and balls, and gradually increase the speed and intensity of your oral efforts.
Communication is key. Encourage your partner to give feedback—ask them to express what feels good, whether it’s faster or slower. This helps both partners learn what brings pleasure and enhances the experience.
Don’t overlook the importance of the balls! Harper emphasizes that they’re often neglected but can greatly enhance the experience. “Massaging the balls while giving head can intensify pleasure and help if your jaw gets tired,” she notes. You can alternate between focusing on the head and using your hands on the shaft.
Consider using products to enhance your experience. Lubricants now come in various flavors, which can be a fun addition. A handheld vibrator can also add a new dimension to your technique, especially when used on the perineum—the sensitive area between the balls and anus. Just make sure your partner is on board with any toys you might want to incorporate.
Oral pleasure can be a fantastic way to spice things up and help your partner feel cherished. Open communication about likes and dislikes is crucial for a healthy intimate life, but remember, your enjoyment matters too.
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